Lesson 5: Self-attention
Self Awareness and Acceptance
Now that you have been spending a little time, and maybe even a little money, on yourself, you may be intrigued by what you are discovering.
Have you learned the types of things you enjoy doing, the things you may no longer enjoy? The potential for self awareness and growth during this time is unlimited, if you choose to view it that way.
In her book Living Through the Meantime Iyanla Vanzant talks about learning to break the patterns of the past and begin the healing process. Examining those patterns can be liberating, and yet, the process of discovery can be painful. Occasionally, we see patterns in our lives that are less than flattering.
The object of self analysis and awareness is to help you put the pieces of the puzzle back together, in a way that is even more beautiful than the original version. This exploration will involve realizations about your body, your mind, your emotions, your spirit, your attitudes, your choices, and your behaviors. And there will come a time when you recognize that the awareness stage is behind you and it is time to act.
Some questions to ask yourself.
1. Can I manage what I am discovering about myself or would it be beneficial to work with a therapist or counselor to resolve old, unhealthy patterns of behaviour?
2. Am I receiving the appropriate physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual care?
3. Am I participating in regular self-reflective time when I am able to meditate, contemplate, and understand who I am?
When it comes to self-awareness, you will know when you know enough to move on. You may want to ask for help. Then accept that you are worth knowing. And embrace the opportunity to acceptance yourself for who you are.
Do you like what you see in the mirror of your Self? We have a tremendous storehouse of talents and gifts if we are but willing to accept who we are, and not who we would rather be.
In this section, I will ask you to take an inventory of your gifts and talents. Not just the marketable ones, but the ones that make you unique on the planet. Perhaps you are wonderful with animals. Maybe you make the kind of chicken noodle soup that friends would willingly get sick just to have you make it for them. You might be an outstanding time manager. You may possess a quiet composure that puts family immediately at ease. You may be a great doctor, salesperson, mom, housekeeper, dad, performer, teacher. You are not just what you do, but how you show up. What does that look like for you?
A great book to help with this discovery is Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton, Ph.D.'s Now, Discover Your Strengths. I recommend this book, because it goes beyond surface attributes and drives down to core gifts.
When you know how you are an unique gift to the world, walk to the mirror and introduce yourself. You will be amazed at who you see.
1. When you examine who you are, who do you find?
2. What makes you unique in the world?
3. How can you share who you are with someone else?
4. Do your closest friends, family members, and co-workers know this person, or have you crafted someone else to share with them?
5. What would happen if you started living your life authentically, right now?
