Lesson 1: Emotional Healing
We will examine the variety of emotions you may be feeling and gain a better understanding of the role they play. We will look at the elements of responsibility, forgiveness, and acceptance. There will be questions concerning your plan for emotional healing and how you will put that plan into action.
A New Beginning
This course is intended for those who are trying to work their way through the end of a long term relationship. There will be moments of triumph and moments of defeat. There is no cookie cutter way to heal from the end of a relationship. In fact, to suggest there is would be to insult the uniqueness of the relationship you have been in. It's easy for others to offer advice, but only you know your situation exactly. In the initial stages of separation it can be difficult to know what to do first. In this lesson, I want to share some information about working with your current situation.
This is a new beginning for you. It may not feel like it, but it is. You have an opportunity to review your life, your choices, and your future. You can reflect on how you came to be where you are and what you can do to get to a better place. There is never a circumstance that cannot be taken and used to improve our lives. This is one of those times for you. You can decide to move forward. You can make this situation work for your ultimate good. It may take some effort and it may seem daunting at times, but you can do it and you will be glad you did.
Have you ever noticed that people react differently than you might have expected or from what would be truly helpful? Many people find it difficult to deal openly with others' pain. We, in fact, may not fully understand or deal with our pain effectively, ourselves. Research shows that people recover from loss more quickly and more completely if the losses can be discussed openly.
Whether you initiated the breakup or not, the impact is profound and the loss is acute. You may be experiencing a wide range of emotional states - every 10 seconds! When relationships end, we react. We get angry, exhilarated, frightened, relieved, sad, depressed, and confused. Rather than resist them, it is important to treat those emotional responses as the messengers they are from our minds and hearts. Accept that, regardless of how the relationship ended; it is a significant loss that must be grieved.
No one will be telling you how to deal with your circumstances in these lessons. The information presented here is for your consideration. You will take from it what is most useful to you and apply it.
