Coping with Bullying

Lesson 2: Who is a Bully?

If we could peek inside the mind of a bully, we would better understand why he enjoys bullying. In this lesson, we are going to do just that.

Inside the Mind of a Bully

You can't tell a bully by looking at her. Some are big, some are small. Some are boys, and some are girls. Yes, girls are bullies too.

Bullies are often popular kids who have lots of friends. Others are children with social disorders. These kids don't know how to make friends, so they resort to bullying, hoping to get attention. The one thing that all bullies have in common is that something or someone makes them feel insecure.

Why Do Bullies Bully?

There is one thing that you have to understand in order to know why bullies bully. Everyone is different and has different things happening in their lives. Sometimes a bully really feels scared, unloved and alone. It could be conditions at home, a sick parent, or something that's happening at school. The bully may feel she is not getting enough attention from her teacher, parents or friends. Maybe her parents are separating or getting a divorce. The bully may have seen someone get their way by getting angry or by means of hitting or shoving.

Sometimes the reason a bully acts as she does is because she is being bullied. It could be the bully watches too many violent TV shows or movies. Maybe they play too many violent video games.

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