Lesson 4: Lesson 4 - Behavioral Management: Part I
Developing A Positive Approach
Because these children have a more fragile self-esteem, we want to begin a behavioral management program by rewarding them for the things they do right. If you have been completing your behavioral diary, you will already know what is working for you and what isn’t.
Choose three target behaviors you want to reinforce. You probably have a long list, but let’s focus on three that you think your child might be successful at for right now. Let’s say they are coming to the dinner table on time, making your bed in the morning and bringing home your schoolwork. Younger children might have something like washing your hands before dinner, picking up your toys before bedtime (they might need help with this job), feeding the cat. Each family is different. Determine what behaviors are appropriate for the age and maturity of your child.
Next, get a piece of paper and, with the help of your child, make a list of all the things that are important to him that would act as reinforcement. Explain to him that you want to help him succeed in completing jobs and goals. Tell him that every time he completes a job he will earn points; he will get to mark on a chart with a sticker or pen, and at the end of the week, will be able to exchange those points for something on this list.
Reinforcers can be material (stickers to place on a chart, small toys, balloons, posters, etc.); something edible (gum, special dessert, popcorn with TV, etc.); or activities (extra TV time or computer games, library or field trips, concerts, games, playing with them, special one-on-one time, going to a movie or getting a hamburger, etc.). They can also be social. Social reinforcers should be given to the child often, and include smiles, hugs, praise, approval, encouragement, etc. and verbal comments: “Great job!”- “Wonderful!” - “Fantastic” - “Super” - “I’m really proud of you”, etc.
When the list is complete, place a value next to each one and a point. Then make up a chart that will help them see their progress. Your child can put a point or star or some other symbol next to the job they have completed. Each behavior will be rewarded with so many points. (See attachments “Point System” and “Weekly chart”.)
