Women raised without fathers

» capel - Trusting others/father figures

Can someone please help me to understand what difficulities women may have and how to deal with these issues, where there fathers left them early in life to be raised only by there mother.

Is older men the answer for some? Is not trusting people a common issue?

Thanks

-- posted by capel

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» Babygirl36 - Re: Trusting others/father figures

Not sure what u trying to find out. Was raised by my mother and stepfather (a/w). My father left before I was born, was second child. I met him when I was 10 and kept in touch ever since. Have a wonderful relationship with my stepsisters and brothers but don't talk much to my father. I guess I still have some resentment towards him, but don't think much about it.
I always liked older men. In fact was in a relationship when I was fifteen in which boyfriend was 8 mos younger than me, he adored me no doubt but I couldn't get my mind off the issue that he was younger until eventually I let go. I am 36 and being with men the least 9 years older than me ever since.
Like I mentioned before my mother remarried. Stepfather treated us like dirt and even molested us as child, since I remember, I can remember as early as 5 years old. He used to touch us. I became rebelious when I was 12 and left the house to leave with my aunt after that. My mother moved to the US when I was 15, he died shortly after. I find myself unable to trust people quiet often. But is only natural when you are violated at such a tender age you learn how to become defensive even with your own family. What happened to you?

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