Is it posssible to be friends?

Top 2. Jul 21, 2002 4:24 PM

» Babygirl36 - Re: married and friendship with other woman

We meet again... funny... You are inviting emotions into your life that are certainly not able to handle. You are in denial and seeking help? .... Are you or are you not atracted to her? Every relationship starts with a friendship. Which you obviously have, she might not feel the same about you that's the reason she is drawing the line by stating "as far it stays that way/ friends only", I am a woman and honestly we know when a guy is interested. If the attraction is mutual I usually respond, if not I make myself clear by saying something like that. She may have a reason maybe she cherish your friendship to much and don't want to mess up by becoming emotionately attached, she might also, just as you may too, cherish your relationship at home w/ spouse. Do you?

-- posted by Babygirl36

Top 3. Sep 21, 2002 1:37 AM

» green0110 - Re: married and friendship with other woman

In response to message posted by capel:

This is very interesting to find out as I also have exactly the same situation right now. I am married with 3 kids and has developed a good friendship with this coworker of mine who is also married. We initially started as being nice to each other since we are on the same department at work. Then we started to go out to lunch as a group and later on just by ourselves. We started to email a lot at work, exchanging jokes, etc...and discovered later on we like the same kinds of sports as well. in other words, we enjoy each other's company in the workplace. By the way, i have already revealed to her that i've developed this special feeling and admiration for her. Her reaction was that she only wanted to be friends/coworker and that's all, nothing more beyond that. this is where i am confused, if she doesnt have any feelings beyond our current level of friendship, why does she still go out to lunch with me one on one. also, she still entertains me quite often even throughout the day while she works. Also we continue to play sports together and joke with one anohter..which begs the question for the women out there: dont you think this is more than friendship that she's manifesting?

-- posted by green0110

Top 4. Sep 28, 2002 7:08 PM

» winstrong25 - married and friendship with other woman

hiiii
you made me remain me of my past and i t my work place was attracted to a female and she was very close with me. i proposed her and she did not accept it. I thought that i cannot be her friend so i moved away but she did not leave me. she made me very uncomfartable and she would always come behind me and but never agreed to marry me. I made my heart as rocka nd completely ignored her. she would never leave me either accept me. i was mad and really did not understand her.but i stood by my decision and it was not bcas i want to make her feel but to make myself more stable.we have hanged around quite a bit and even after all these we went out for lunch but never opened the topic.Well iam in out of touch with her as i moved out of my office now and heard that she is goin to get engaged next month.but memories always remain in my everythought and i feel more attracted bcas iam away from her. well i have her numbers but nebver tried to call her and iam in this phase for past 7 months.
Well hope this would end soon

-- posted by winstrong25