Marriage Shock: Marriage shock?

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This was an interesting article in that it brought up something I've never thought about and so far haven't experienced. Perhaps that's because both my husband and I were older (me 32, he 28) when we married. We'd been on our own, in our own places, holding down our own jobs, for years. If anything, for me, I have had the opposite experience - marriage has been liberating in that my husband, who loves his job, is willing to be the main support for us while I attempt to develop a career at something I love instead of just working any job that will pay the rent.

The only identity-loss problem I have is that everyone in my husband's family addresses correspondence to us as "Mr & Mrs. Husband." I won't open those. I refuse to give up my first name, no matter what they think about it. My mother thinks I'm being somewhat silly but she has had problems in the past with the same issue, so it's not like she's completely in the dark. Credit card companies used to give out credits cards to Mrs. Husband, and when my mother tried to cancel one of her cards, she was told they couldn't do it unless they had her husband's permission. She was only Mrs. Husband, so she couldn't make that decision. Well, I ain't Mrs. Husband, and that's that.

-- posted by Marella