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» RECRUITER1967 - is this abuse

In response to is this abuse posted by trust79:

Dear Trust79:
Was your husband always abusive? or just when he returned and started in about money.
Boy I can feel your problem. I have been married only 3/1/2 almost 4 years legally;. Was living together for one year and a half so over 5 years i have been with my husband. For the past year he has kept all the money in his name, has his own account. took away all my credit cards that he had me on his account. All because i had used the cards for too much money and ramped and went crazy. The same thing. I used them 90% for the house, bills, insurance etc.
Food mostly.
I hardly bought anything for myself and even if I did I thought I was entitled.
I did go overboard I am responsible for what I have done but What he has been doing is not right. He says that he cannot trust me with the money, he hides his checking account statements. Says he has no money but there is alot of money in his accounts. I know he is hiding some of his money through his corporations.
I am teeling you my story because I am suffering very badly. You have been married a life time but has it been abusive for all this time or just now.
My husband also tells me all the time I am incompetent, I can only do a certain job, I have no education, I am a f----- up which I dont want to write down due to profanity.
He always brings out the negative in me and much less the positive, he never liked me for who i am.
He even has hit me quite a few times in the past and now he has been telling me he will divorce me more than a few times. I know he does not love me anymore due to having him arrested twwice for domestic violence.
I am torn and I cannot seem to leave him
I feel I cannot live without him and my life would be so empty without him
I dont know what to do?
please help:

-- posted by RECRUITER1967