So, What is Abuse?: is this abuse

» trust79 - is this abuse

I have been married for 20 some odd years. My husband worked away for years. Upon his return, I was to give up all rights to the check book. I could right checks, but had to explain why and if I did not he would rant and raive for days. I went back to school to get a degree. He tried to tell me what the degree had to be in. I tried it his way, but hated the degree he had chosen. I switched degrees. He has told me that I am not smart enough to do the one he thinks I should of done. He has said repeatedly that I lack the ability to take care of his check book. I have my own check book now. He managed to mess his up and when we bought our new home. I had to put him on mine so that he could write checks. His checks where not going to be in on time.

I have left several times because of his behavor. I resently set him down and told him that his behaveor was getting to me. That everytime I spent any money. He went off, that he needed to work harder. He said, he did not see a problem with my behavor however, would need to do something about mine. He has started to complain to his family that I am spending way to much money. I don't go anywhere, I spend only what I Make and today handed him back the second check book asking to take my name off of it. I can do nothing right and am uncapable of knowing how to do my own job. Please help me am I wrong? Is this verbal abuse?

-- posted by trust79