So, What is Abuse?
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- ruby43
- faith5319
- laurenmarie321
- dragonaa2
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» ruby43 - Wow...what a eye-opener...
I read this article again...and I have been able to see some of the recommendations or tips..that I have utilized. I began "giving him back a taste of his own medicine"....which could have backfired on me, since he then accused me of being a "bitch" or "being disrespectful". It is rather interesting how my attempts to respond and react to him in the same manner...gave him "fuel for the fire". I also "got the word out"...and made it known of his actions, words, and behaviors. This opened up a whole new can of worms...since then he has accused me of running my mouth and making him look bad. But at least he is now having to face his demons, if he choosed to pursue his distorted perspective...that's his problem. I am working on moving on with my life, knowing that I am not the bad guy. If he wants to drag this out in some last ditch efforts to salvage his ego and his reputation...that's fine. I have my pictures, and my documentation....to support me. I have every intention of "winning" this game. It is no longer about who gets what in the divorce...that is not important to me...it is more about forcing him to deal with these things...and consequently, him becoming aware that many people out there are going to make him be held accountable for his actions and behaviors. His "entitlement" is fading fast...and I am enjoying the show.-- posted by ruby43
» faith5319 - Re: Wow...what a eye-opener...
In response to Wow...what a eye-opener... posted by ruby43:excellent artical!!!! i now know that the steps i've been taking are the right thing to do!! it is a horried thought that a person would want to gain power over someone just to make themselves feel better? i never will understand the mind of a person that wants to make someone feel bad about themselves? where is the love?
-- posted by faith5319
» laurenmarie321 - Re: Re: Wow...what a eye-opener...
In response to Re: Wow...what a eye-opener... posted by faith5319:I agree about not understanding how people can want to make others feel bad about themselves, but it is what it is. My husband thrives on that, and he makes himself feel better by making me feel like a worthless human. I too am getting my "ducks in a row" to leave and hopefully never look back. I have a 4 year old daughter whom I do not want learning that our marriage is the "normal, Healthy" relationship she should look for...yikes!!
-- posted by laurenmarie321
» dragonaa2 - Re: Wow...what a eye-opener...
I'm sorry but there is no possible way that you are going to make your abuser see the that what he is doing to you is actually called abuse. In the minds of abusers what they are doing is purely their natural way of being. Abusers don't have an epiphany and one day say "oh she was right". You need to be more concerned with getting out og this relationship and moving on without worrying if he is ever going to understand the nauture of his wrong doing.-- posted by dragonaa2
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