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  1. ladydawn
  2. bt48
  3. samvak
  4. jka338x

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Top 1.   Apr 3, 2004 6:44 AM

» ladydawn - emotional abuse

any one have any luck with the courts in getting them to recognize danger of emotional abuse that comes from a narcissitic abusive parent - not physical abuse, but that incessant emotional torture that slowly eats away at a child's life.

maybe requiring parental visitations to be supervised or requiring abusive parent to undergo counseling long term.

-- posted by ladydawn

Top 2.   May 27, 2004 2:25 PM

» bt48 - Re: emotional abuse

In response to message posted by ladydawn:

I do not have any information on this, I do know that I believe I have been dating an N for over 2.5 years with 2 children, I do understand what they are going through, I am trying desparetly to break away from him. Often have thought of calling their mom, I do not have her phone number, and he would go nuts. He is cruel to the children, he cruel to me. As long as they are doing things for him, he is happy. I have watched one daughter grow into her teen years wanting to do things other teens are doing, and he refuses to allow her to attend many functions, i.e., dances, parties, athletic events, blaming on their mother choice of where she lives. Sound familar.

-- posted by bt48

Top 4.   Jun 10, 2004 6:53 PM

» jka338x - Re: emotional abuse

In response to message posted by ladydawn:

-- Don't know if this is success, but after with my ex-husband, diagnosed as both a sociopath and having narcissistic personality disorder by children's therapist and backed in a weak way by the court appointed custody evaluator, he was given normal visitation. However, predictably, after 2 years my 11 yr old son began talking about wanting to die, never wake up, et c, at which point I called divorce lawyers asking for the names of therapists who were willing to testify in courts and who strongly advocated for children. The children's own attorney during the evaluation process believed my ex- until the very last minute and was shocked to see the deterioration of my son 2 years after the custody eval. Backed by a court-=appointed therapist who had real clout in the court -- everything is POLITICAL in courts, the right attys, therapists, and connections between them -- they stopped visits altogether for my son, which was considered a near miracle because in Chicago, rarely does anything short of murder keep a parent from having regular visitation with his kids, maybe because in this area there are so many over-the-top cases of violence.
But the EMOTIONAL abuse dr ove my son over the edge, and at least temporarily the court recognized, or rather was willing to go with the recommendations of the therapist. But again, I emphize that courts' actions are based on playing your cards right, finding the right people who in turn network or have respect for each other. The biggest mistake you can make is to place your faith in 'justice' or 'intelligent' action on the part of the courts. SOME therapists--not all--recognize the devastation of emotional abuse but the trick is to find one with court connections. Also, our family doctor -- a blessing-- sees my ex- in a clearer light than anyone, and is willing to do anything he can to help us out in court. A second evaluation is pending after untold turmoil since the first evaluation.
Good luck to you, and would welcome hearing any details of your case, incl. the state you live in, if that's not to intrusive.
-jka338x

-- posted by jka338x

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