Help with my 15 year old "WOMEN"

» shammy04 - troubled teen

I hope some one out there has some advice for me!!!
First off, My daughter will turn 15 in Aug.. She has continued to lie to me and manipulate every part of her family ,including her aunts, uncles, step father, father and her grand parents.
I was young when I had her and so I always tried to give her a better life than I. I came from a broken family and were were always struggling financially. I have been married to my current husband since she was 1 1/2 years old and he has been the major father figure in her life. Her real father sees her only when she calls to tell him that we are " being unfair or to hard on her" anthatsts a whole other issue.
I have been very open with her about sex, drug s, and alchol. Letting her know at an early age these are wrong. Continually giving her information and talking to her. My husband recently found condoms and cigarettes in her room ,along with alot of letters that she has been sleeping with a 19 year old since she was 13. I am totally shocked as i couldn'td figure out when she was able to even do this since their is constant supervision . Well it was when she was at her aunts house and it was the neighbor hood boy. Well when that came out along came everything else, pot and drinking. I am at my wits end. I found out also she has been recently sneaking out.I do not know what to do at this point. I have taken her to tDr dr. and put her on birth control, also I have trinumeroususe times (very day) to talk to her about all of these things. She only puts a wall up and will not talk to me at all> I have contacted her father and he tells me he knew and that maybe it would be better if I let her come and live with him since all we so is pick at her!hihahahahhahhah is he crazy? She now wihavehve nothing to do with my husband since he has invaded her privacy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! Thank you all for listening. Shammy04

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» johncblacker - troubled teen

In response to troubled teen posted by shammy04:

Let her go live with her paternal father! That will accomplish two things: make your life at home better and will let him experience first-hand where the problem really is - with her, not you! Some teenagers refuse to internalize any information provided by their parents. They feel they know better. You have an absolute right to search her room. It's your home and you have a right to protect yourselves. Unfortunately, you cannot control your daughter. It's the age-old issue of bringing the horse to water, but you can't make them drink. Some people learn the hard way, some the easy way and unfortunately, some don't ever learn! Whatever the case with your daughter, you shouldn't have to suffer because she refuses act responsibly!

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