Step Parenting an Out of Control Teen: Too much to handle!!

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Reading most of these post made me realize that my husband and I are not alone. In our family there are 4 children. Two are his from a previous marriage. I have one from a previous relationship, then we have our son together that is only 6 months old today actually. The oldest being the only girl the ages are 13, 10, 3, 6 months. My step son which is the 10 year old doesn't live with us. He is here every chance though when there is no school.
My step daugter is the one we are having trouble with. She just changed it seems over night. We have her in counciling but everything seems to be funny or a joke to her. She has been stealing, lieing, shoplifting, smoking, worshiping the devil (putting 666 and upsidedown crosses all over her room), sneaking out of the house and stayed out as late as four in the morning, Also caught her sneaking a boy in the house.
We dont know what else to do with her. It gets harder for me everyday. My husband and I will be married one year in March. We have lived together for almost three years. The kids loved me and were real happy at one time. I dont know how it came to this. So we have decided to send her to her moms to live. We dont know what else to do. It's a tough thing to do, even though I am just her step mom I will hate to see her go. I feel she is safer with her mom and can be watched over better. It;'s hard for me since I have 2 younger children to tend to.
My husband works most of the day from 9 a.m till 7 p.m. Sometimes later and it takes him till about 8 p.m. to get home. So I am home with the kids majority of the day. I just want to make sure that we are making the best decission. Any comments or ideas would be great.
Thank you,
Justlovely

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