Papa Don't Preach
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- Zanzi
- Tery01
- Zanzi
- jerrib
- Tery01
- kmb20
- maliksmom18
- meluvu636
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» Zanzi - A very much needed article...
...thank you so much for writing it! With your permission, I would like to link to it in a future article of my Christian Parenting topic.One question I have, however: would you please explain what you mean by
Parents must remember that they are as much to blame as the one who is carrying the unborn child.Thanks!
-- posted by Zanzi
» Tery01 - Re: A very much needed article...
In response to message posted by Zanzi:Hi Sylvia,
Of course you can
Well what I mean by that comment is that when a young adult comes home pregnant (can be anywhere from 12 years old to 18 years old) the first reaction from parents is "How could you?" or "What were you thinking?"
Parents are the ones who teach and raise their kids, and if they don't teach properly their kids will venture out and experiment. If they are not educating their kids about teen pregnancy, sex and the consequences then there will be end results.
If a 12 year old child (and it happens) comes home pregnant! Gosh! I can only say that those parents of hers is just not there for her.
I remember when the show Beverly Hills 90210 was on and there was a show about Condoms in school. Parents were against it and felt it was giving kids "permission" to have sex. And one of the kids said... "If you have a pool in your yard, you can surround it with a fence, you can put an alarm on the fence, but the kid will find its way through eventually, don't you think you should teach that child how to swim?"
And I agree.
-- posted by Tery01
» Tery01 - Re: I don't think
In response to message posted by jerrib:Hi Jerri,
What I did say was that "parents are to blame as much as the one holding the unborn child."
Parents do share part of the blame for teenage pregnancy. If parents were more open-minded about sex and what goes on amongst our teenagers, then maybe teens would be more educated about sex. Parents seem to have a way of making sex sound bad.
I have three teenage daughters and one son, so I interact with parents from many age groups and I am still shocked at how parents still today are so closed minded. They really believe if you tell your child to "wait" or "just say no" that this is the answer to all the problems, and it is not.
I agree about the waiting part of it all, but I feel that parents should teach their kids about options, choices, birth control, diseases, and consequences. But they don't.
The most important thing that a parent should teach their child is about self-respect and self-love.
I don't think that two teenagers are both consensual about the act of sex. I think that a lot of young girls have doubt and are being manipulated and corsed. There are a lot of 12 and 13 year olds having sex with 17 year olds and I doubt that it is 100 percent consenting for both parties.
A child is brought into this world from a parent. It is a parents job to teach and educate all phases of life and if the parent doesn't teach properly about "one area" in life then that child is going to seek out and get advice from the wrong people.
-- posted by Tery01
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» maliksmom18 - Re: Re: I don't think
I don't think that fathers should be so onto the child for being pregnant early mainly because i am 17 years old and i have a beautiful 15 month old baby boy and my Father was nowhere around for me and i got pregnant and had to move with him he was mad at first but he got over it eventually but he still regrets me having a baby but he still loves me alot so i think that they do forgive when the baby comes they forget everything-- posted by maliksmom18
» meluvu636 - Reality
Although I am only 15, I do have a lot to say about what I read in response to the article, "Papa Don't Preach".I agree with the thought that parents need to open their minds to the reality of this world. They need to talk to their children, not about how babies are made-they all get that-stick the penis in the vagina and whala! Maybe 9 months from now you'll have a baby! But they need to know how it happens and they need to know about conception and how it works and EFFECTIVE contraceptive methods. I know a lot on this particular subject, (sex, pregnancy, child birth, babies, etc)but not because I got pregnant or that I have ever even had sex, but because I educated myself on this topic. I find the whole process fasinating and miraculous. But, because I have educated myself so much on this topic, I get a lot of kids asking for my edvise and questions about what's true and what's not. I have recieved questions about using ciran wrap and a rubber band in place of a condom-definately not! I've been asked about getting pregnant if you have sex on your period-although possible for prevention, you would have had your period for a good deal of time and know exactly how your cycle works-even then it is not a guarentee-so it would not be an effective method for teens. I have been asked if you can get pregnant on your first sexual encounter-yes you can. I have told many YOUNG children that they can get pregnant even BEFORE they have their period. That is because when a woman gets her period, that is the lining of the uterus and the unfertalized egg that is exiting from her body-which means the egg had been released from the ovaries for fertilization a few weeks before. Which is how she can get pregnant. Many ask if withdrawal (or taking the penis from the vagina before ejaculation) is a successful method of contraception-no. Most men (or boys) do not have the willpower to pull out in time. Even if they do, chances are she could get pregnant. Also, something many don't know, a woman CAN get pregnant even if the penis is NOT all the way in the vagina-if just the tip is and the male does not ejaculate-because to help the penis into the vagina, both male and female prduce natural lubricants with their bodies; sometimes there is spirm in the lubricant. If anywhere near the vagina, spirm CAN SWIM until it is inside. That's the honest to god truth. I have to get going but it is things like this that parents need to talk to their teens about (or children). I should not have to be the one, although I don't mind, to tell these kids about it. I don't mind becuase I know they are insecure and uncertain and want to know, but they should be able to ask their parents because, I am one of very FEW who actually know the correct answers. What do you think, does that make any sense??-- posted by meluvu636
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