My Baby Daddy
- poopsy23
- MYHEARTACHES
- JAYSHA
- JAYSHA
- Mom2Destinee
- shayma
- shayma
- shayma
- Manda19
- tphi2g
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» poopsy23 - Re: What do I do when my baby daddy is going to have another bab
In response to What do I do when my baby daddy is going to have another baby? posted by Liyah05:LIFE IS WORTH LIVING NOT ONLY FOR YOU, BUT FOR THE BABY. You are still a baby yourself, however you can't dwell on this you are now forced to grow up a littel faster than might have planned. First realize you can't change someone who does not what to be changed. who really forces you to stay with your boyfriend? You have chosen to stay this long, haven't you? I know the other baby hurts you but you have to try to put that aside and work on the problems you and your baby will have if this guy sticks around. I'm not saying he shouldn't be in your childs life, i'm asking if he should be allowed you stay in yours? Has he really earn that priviledge. You can love someone and not be with that person. It sounds strange but its true. Your only 17. you haven't even experienced all that life has to offer. The baby will only slow your experiences down, but don't let the baby stop you from experiencing. There are some ways to have your cake and eat it to. As for the other baby on the way don't let this be your main focus. there isn't any thing you can do to change what is going to happen, but you can change how you and your child are going to be affected this situation.
-- posted by poopsy23
» MYHEARTACHES - Re: What do I do when my baby daddy is going to have another bab
WELL WE ARE ALMOST IN THE SAME SITUATION. I FOUND OUT WHEN I WAS 8 MONTHS PREGNANT THAT MY BABY DADDY WAS HAVING A BABY WITH SOME OTHER CHICK SHE WAS 4 MONTHS PREGNANT.. RIGHT NOW IM GOING THROUGH SO MUCH BECAUSE I LOVE HIM MORE THEN ANYTHING AND ALL I THINK ABOUT IS IF I CAN GO ON LIVING LIKE THIS AND WELL I NEED TO FOR THE BABY.I TREAT HIM LIKE SHIT ALL THE TIME TO KEEP MYSELF FROM FORMING A RELATIONSHIP LIKE WE ONCE HAD.HE SAYS HE DONT GIVE A F ABOUT HER BUT WHAT WILL HAPPEN IN APRIL WHEN HER BABY IS BORN.THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I JUST WANT TO RUN TO HIM AND KISS AND HUG HIM CRY ON HIS SHOULDER AND I CANT SO IT HURTS EVEN MORE.I THOUGHT I ACTUALLY FOUND SOMONE FOREVER BUT MY FOREVER WAS SHORT.. I GUESS HAPPINESS IS ONLY IN FAIRY TALES AND MY LIFE IS FAR FROM A FAIRY TALE.. IM HURTING INSIDE AND I DONT THINK IT GOIN AWAY ANYTIME SOON SINCERLEY SOMEONE WHO KNOWS-- posted by MYHEARTACHES
» JAYSHA - Re: Need advise
In response to Need advise posted by cruelsummer86:I WAS 18 WHEN I HAD MY 1ST CHILD...YOU DON'T NEED HIM....ABORTION MIGHT SEEM LIKE THE EASY WAY OUT. BUT THATS NOT THE WAY TO GO. BE RESPONSIBLE AND TAKE CARE OF THAT BABY. YOU CAN DO IT. IT MIGHT BE HARD AT TIMES BUT ITS ALL WORTH IT. MY DAUGHTERS FATHER IS NOT IN THE PICTURE AND SHE'S DOING JUST FINE...EVERYONE SAYS "ITS SO IMPORTANT TO KNOW WHO THE FATHER IS" BUT I DON'T AGREE WITH THAT. WHAT'S IMPORTANT IS THAT CHILD IS SAFE AND IF YOU FEEL YOUR BABY WON'T BE SAFE AROUND HIM, THEN GO WITH YOUR MOTHERLY INSTINCT. GOOD LUCK HON
-- posted by JAYSHA
» JAYSHA - Re: Re: What do I do when my baby daddy is going to have another
In response to Re: What do I do when my baby daddy is going to have another bab posted by MYHEARTACHES:I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION ONLY SHE ENDED UP MISCARRYING....HE SAID HE WAS SORRY, HE WOULDN'T DO AGAIN. MY DAUGHTER IS NOW 6 YRS OLD AND HE HAS 4 OTHER KIDS WITH THE SAME GIRL...ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER....TAKE YOUR TIME AND LEAVE HIM WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. WHEN YOUR PREGNANT AND GOING THROUGH THIS ITS ALWAYS SO MUCH HARDER. YOURE GOING TO HURT BUT THE HURT IS ONLY TEMPORARILY...YOU WILL GET OVER IT EVENTUALLY.
-- posted by JAYSHA
» Mom2Destinee - Need advise
In response to Need advise posted by cruelsummer86:I am 17 and going to have a baby in 6 weeks and my babys dad is very abusive and is an alcoholic. I have tried to involve him in any way possible but that is no longer my job. He was my first real love and meant the world to me until he started acting like a fool. He would write me mean letters when I tried to tell him about his unborn daughter. But then I had to make a decision, every child has the right to know who their father is but as mothers its not our job to make sure they keep up their end of the deal. I dont want him to come in and out of her life and if he doesnt want to be involved now he cant just decide to in a couple months. I am going to be a mom 24 hours every day no matter if he is there or not. Dont get me wrong I want my daughter to know her father, but with the kind of person he is, it would be better if he wasnt around. In other words you can only try so much but you cant force somone to be a parent that doesnt want to be or that is such a bad person that he might be a danger to your child. It isnt about you anymore its about a baby, a innocent child that solely depends on you to keep them from harm.
-- posted by Mom2Destinee
» shayma - baby daddy drama..
wats up p, my advise to you is that you need to talk to him and let him no that he has a new born son that he needs to help take care of because you did not make this baby by your self and you will not raise this baby by your self you need his help no matter waht yall are going through yall both have a son togeather that yall need to think about and take care of he needs to know give him the chance to do what he's got to do and if he doesnt take his ass to domestic realtions because raising a child by your self is not easy its not only the womens responsibility the man also needs to provide (Good luck)!!!!! and honey dont worry bout dat other chick cause if he aint doin right by u and urs eventually she goin to see that he aint all dat he made up to be handle ya you and your's.-- posted by shayma
» shayma - Need advise
gurl my advise to you is that you neeed to first GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP because by you always being hurt and feeling down and stressed is not good for the health of your baby trust me you need to worry about t\your unborn child and you and the life your going to have to make for you and your baby if ypur xboyrfriend is not acting right gurl let him go he is not right for you although you may love him but sometimes if you love some one so much but there not doing right you need to let them go you are 19 years old you are to young to be in a abusive realtionship no matter what kind of abuse you deserve your respect expscially sinsec your carrying his child love your self and your child dont let him talk you into getting rid of your baby thats your blessing gurl i wish you the best of luck but remember get out dont stay with him.-- posted by shayma
» shayma - Re: babydaddy problems
gurl let tell you something you need to let him no that he needs to handle his buisness that is his child to and he also neefds to take care of it you are 16 you need help taking care of your child he aint going to be happy if you take his triphlen asss to domestics so you need to let him know he need to handle his bizz word up cause us single teen mothers need they help-- posted by shayma
» Manda19 - Need advise
Hey hun im 18 turning 19 in a month and my baby is due in 9 weeks. I am in the same situation as you are the father of my baby is such an ass he is so mean to me he told me that if i really cared i would have gotten an abortion and i hate him for trying to make me choose, he has said alot of cruel things to me and it hurts cause he is my my first love and regardless i will always love him but if he is gonna be like that than i know im better off as much as it hurts.....What they dont understand is that with a situation like this ofcourse were gonna be emotional and putting us down about it will only make it worse....Honestly dont get rid of the baby, just cause he makes u feel that way, i actually went to clinic to get an abortion and walked right out i just couldnt do it if ur a strong girl than u will make the right choice i know u can..sometimes i feel hopeless but theres a brightside to everything.........dont do something because he says u should or makes u feel like u should do what u think is right follow ur heart but once u start to feel the baby move inside u u cant let go..............-- posted by Manda19
» tphi2g - What do I do when my baby daddy is going to have another baby?
Hi, my name is Tara and I went through the same thing with my baby's father. A week after I had my baby I found out he had another baby on the way. He was saying the baby might not be his and if it is he's going to take care of it. And he lied all the time. But what you need to do is move on with your life and think about your child, that's worth living for, forget your baby's dad he's not going to do right and he's not going to change. And the hitting never stops, maybe for a minute. Just be strong and ask God to give you a strong mind and heart, just ask him to take the pain away. I know what you are going through and it hurts, but you'll get over him. Once he's out of your system you will fell a whole lot better. Just wait on God to sent you someone don't rush it and keep your head up. If you still in school stay there.-- posted by tphi2g
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