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» apache612 - being stalked
I feel like I am the only one in this situation most of the time. I read some messages today and it broke my heart to realize that there seem to be so many others who are going through a similar ordeal.My life has been so disrupted, disturbed, and so totally put into upheaval that words can hardly express it...unless someone else has been there.
I have read the books, the articles, etc.... but when it comes down to trying to living and going through daily life, boy, it sure is hard.
I have not told anyone, except for 1 person about this because I am not in a position to make a public scene because of my family and the public office that I hold. It would create a tremendous problem, and ,of course, my stalker is enjoying this gloriously.
I just do not know what to do.
-- posted by apache612
» suzealous - stalking and PTSD
Last year I was a crime victim of domestic violence. I have PTSD. Although it is difficult to understand why this happened to me, I am recovering slowly. Maybe someday I will use this experience to assist in service and volunteer to help other victims.-- posted by suzealous
» janmaohi - Re: stalking and PTSD
In response to message posted by suzealous:thanks for sharing.... i believe the hardest for me is the isolation...and the guilt that i take on... my ex- is stalking me now.. he has been in prision for a total of 18 mo. for stalking.. he gets out and does it all over again..i am now starting to think .. God why aren't you doing something!! i do realiae that it's my responsiblity to care care of myself and i am ...but i am getting real tired of this.. this has been going on for three years....i know i could move ... but i am not there...i guess when push comes to shove he goes back to prison ... he's not physical.. it's all covert emtional.. it does help to read and be able to reply to these e-mails... take care jan
-- posted by janmaohi
» janmaohi - Re: being stalked
In response to message posted by apache612:hi i understand the isolation and hear the guilt...you are not the guilty one .. stalker is....my ex- is stalking me right now as i write this... he has been in prison for stalking me a total of 18 mo. he just gets out and starts it all over again...yes i have a cpo. and i could have him arrested right now... but it's plan to see prison doesn't do a thing for him...and it gives me a reprieve....but i am needing a solution..in short of moving... i have a business here and children and grandchildren..and not yet ready to leave the state... yes in the beginning it was embarrassing..when i thought stalking was about me...but it's not its about him...it's about revenge...and no one will reject me in the stalkers mind... his m.o. is covert and emotional and he knows it...he stalks because he likes it! it's hard to believe that this is my life at 53.. i belong on cruise ships not court rooms!!
in three years i have lost close to 45,000 dollars trying to get free from this "darkness" isolation is the name of their game...don't let him take you down with him...(or her)...yes , you may loose friends, money, jobs, status, but if you loose yourself...you will have lost everything!! the stalker is a vampire..he will suck the life out of you...i am very grateful for these e-mails..they help tremendously...i work-out, get massages,counseling, and try to look at this as a gift... i am choosing to make new friends at the other end of town...exploring new hobbies.... new church. ...new single groups... he has no power over me... he is a pathetic, soul sick..man...if i feel the need to take a self-defense approach , which i have been there in the past(this has been going on for 3 years)...then i will not hesitate to take care of myself.. i am not the victim here...just a target he picked out!! i can take steps that are necessary to protect myself from the emotional abuse...some of my signs are headaches, loose interest in going places, (too much trouble)loss of energy, feeling like i have done something wrong, heartburn, feeling compassion for the stalker, staring to feel insane.. start asking people if i am insane, unsure of my decisions, these are a few of the symptoms i experience from emotionall abuse...i don't care any more what he thinks..or why he does what he does... i didn't cause this and i can't cure it!!! my only focus is to take care of me!! at any cost... you are not alone and you are o.k.!!!!Jan
-- posted by janmaohi
» Jocomo431126 - Re: Re: being stalked
Hi, I am being stalked by my exbf. He stopped for 2 years ;then, he started up again.... I had PPO's on him, they didn't work,my Brotherinlaw is a judge, but I guess either my ex doesn't care or he thinks my Brotherinlaw has forgotten about all this.... I'm scared, I am scared for my life. A friend told me that as time goes on, the stalker gets bolder because nothing has been done so far... I took my ex to court 2 years ago, he got a slap on the hand from the judge, and my Brotherinlaw is a judge, but my ex has either forgotten,doesn't care, or thinks that my Brotherinlaw has forgotten.... I just want to get on with my life, I want to have a normal life again without looking over my shoulder,carrying a cell phone as I walk track,scanning the neighborhood for my ex... I am very scared... It's been 5 years since I broke up with him. My Brotherinlaw and my Mom are always talking in private, so that scares me more... I know my ex has started up again because I saw him last Tuesday night come by, and I have the same scared feeling as before,but not I am even more scared....How long before my ex gives up and moves on? I just want this to end. I want my life back.
-- posted by Jocomo431126
» Jocomo431126 - Well, I talked to one of my neighbor's, and she said she saw a
Well, I talked to one of my neighbor's, and she said she saw a suspious truck outside on her side of street... She told me everything the truck did, and it's everything he has a friend do that drives him by the house..... The neighbor couldn't get a license plate because the way the truck was parked, and she has a tree in her yard that blocks her view at certain angles.... My ex has defintely started up again, but for what reason, I don't know....Be safe everyone...
-- posted by Jocomo431126
» mskristi - unknown stalker
Hi, I am glad I found this website. I have been stalked for two years now, and the police will not do anything. We do not know who my stalker is, but I have some ideas. I gave the police copies of letters that he/she sent to me and to my workplace. I also gave them a list of dates and times of phone calls. I just want to know for sure who it is. I have received 40+ phone calls on my cell in the past 3 weeks. They know not to call my home phone anymore because the phone company is keeping an eye on that. The cell phone company says that the police will have to issue a supboena in order to get the phone records to find out where the calls are coming from. I think that is ridiculus. I have to get a supboena to find out who is calling MY phone!!! Anyway, I have dealt with this fairly well. The letters contradict each other. In most of the letters the topic is how much this person cares about me and that my fiancee is cheating on me. (this is not true-- I trust him but after hearing it 100 or more times-- I had it checked out) The letter to my boss, however, was saying that I had broken the oath that I made when taking the job and the code of ethics. So one day they are saying "I love you" and the next they are trying to have me fired. In all honesty I think that it is one of my fiancee's ex-girlfriends. She has given us problems before. She has even broken into his house and went through his things before. She is a real nut job. However, the voice on the other end of the phone has sounded more masculine lately. It is only a creepy whisper, and you can't really tell who or what it is. Oh, I'm sorry I have written enough to start a book here, but I just needed to get some of this out. I do keep it stored inside a lot. Thanks for listening!Kristiti
-- posted by mskristi
» precious26 - stalking
I wanted to say I have read some of your stories and I really understand whats going on in your minds as my family and i have been stalked for the last 4 years now and today we actually sat down in a mediation service with them and frankly it did nothing!! Mediation in my opinion is a crock and so are the courts,they have done absolutly nothing for us and it is so frustrating. I did not know I was capable of such hate and its coming to a point now where I am going to need professional help like a shrink just to deal with the daily battle. All of this has impacted my life in such a way that I have changed my whole opinion on people in general. I used to think that everyone had a good side and it just took a little to get it out well now I know I was naive and that the only person you can trust is yourself!!-- posted by precious26
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