Legal help
- SLP126
- luna456mf
- luna456mf
- miz_mom
- Tiffany123
- Tiffany123
- mm7
- kgurrl
- kgurrl
- Jaidensmum
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» SLP126 - Finding a trustworthy attorney
I'm new to this forum. I came here looking for advice, so I hope there is someone out there who can help me. I'm a single mom who really needs to find a good attorney to represent me in a child support/custody case in the Boise, Idaho area. When I went through my divorce, my attorney was just terrible--very patronizing, never returned my phone calls, and acted like my case was the absolute LAST priority of his (because it wasn't a big money-maker, of course). I really need an attorney who will listen to me and represent me to the fullest of his ability. Can anyone give me any leads?Thanks so much! 
-- posted by SLP126
» luna456mf - Help with Divorce and Custody
If anyone out there can help, I am a single mom. I recently got seperated from my husband. He got an attorney and asked me to sign seperation papers. Unknowingly I gave him Primary household rights to our 6 year old daughter instead of joint custody. He is now sending me divorce papers and asking for full custody and child support. I want my baby girl back and I need help. I do not have enough money for an attorney I know there is help out there but I have had no luck. Please email any information to luna456mf@aol.com.Thank you and god bless.
-- posted by luna456mf
» miz_mom - Re: Finding a trustworthy attorney
In response to message posted by SLP126:
Hi there. I'm not sure if you got any responses. I don't live in Boise but in Sacramento, CA. For my custody battle, I went directly to the District Attorney...of course after I suffered an expensive attorney. They're listed in our phone book as the Dept of Child Support Services and provide free services, except for the paper filing fees. You may want to check locally for government/ county court services. It'll save you alot of money in the long run.
Good luck!
-- posted by miz_mom
» Tiffany123 - Re: Finding a trustworthy attorney
In response to message posted by SLP126:Hi I am Tiffany and I might be able to help, I am AN Independent Associate for prepaid legal services and we give people the right to an AV rated attorney for any and every legal issuse for low monthly fee.For more info please go to my web site Prepaidlegal.com/info/tkingsbury and if you have any questions please email me at TiffanyNik@aol.com I hope I can Help.
-- posted by Tiffany123
» Tiffany123 - Re: Help with Divorce and Custody
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-- posted by Tiffany123
» mm7 - I need help
Ex husband is seeking revenge and with money. I have three children. Ages 6,15, and 16. My Ex lives in Mississippi where we divorced. I moved to Texas to get away from him. He has a very underhanded attorney that is very well known to all judges in the county where we divorced. My family has been financially drained, emotionally drained, and flat ran over. My ex is fighting for custody. I was very ignorant of the law and how everything should be worded in our divorce papers. He has used every crack to fight me with and I have had an attorney that is doing absolutely nothing for me. I need legal help and some one who could go up against my ex's attorney. I have tried to get another attorney from Mississippi where the case is and no one will represent me. Well, there is one and he said I would have to pay him 30,000. My ex is a very dangerous man. My daughter is with him right now due to some underhanded work that he did along with the help of his attorney. Please can someone out there help my family.-- posted by mm7
» kgurrl - RE: I need help
I sympathize with your situation but there is one thing that leaves me wondering and that is why no attorney in your area will represent you. No offense, it just seems a little funny to me. Attorneys don't normally get intimidated at the idea of going up against another attorney no matter what their reputation is, it's their job. I'm in Canada so I am not sure what all is available to you in your state but if you have legal aid there, I strongly suggest you apply immediately. My ex is also vengeful and wants joint custody of my daughter even though he hasn't been around since she was 1 (she is 5 1/2 now). I was once rather intimidated by him but not anymore. I have educated myself in family law as far as what I need to know (what my rights are and his) and it has made all the difference. Please do the same for the sake of your children and yourself. I'd also recommend contacting your local Social Services Department (Family Services). They can put you in touch with the people who can help you. Good luck and bright blessings.-- posted by kgurrl
» kgurrl - For all the women in custody battles and divorce court
I've been reading through the posts and feel the need to respond. I'm a 25 year old mother of two and going into my second marriage. My daughter is from my previous marriage. There are a few things I've learned along the way. First of all, never sign ANYTHING your ex hands you, and if you do get tricked into it, be sure your lawyer and the judge know that you were tricked into it. Never EVER let your ex intimidate you. Part of the joy of being single again is being in control of yourself and your life. If he threatens you, stalks you or otherwise, call the police! That is what they are there for and as long as you report it each time, it will be used against him in court. Keep track of every conversation, meeting, child support check, visitation and otherwise. Write it down, record it, date it and KEEP IT. Keep photos that show what caring, nurturing mothers you are. Photos show a lot. Any documents you may have signed regarding custody, child support, etc...get a copy of it. My ex left me for someone else and wanted a divorce. The catch is he wanted me to pay for it! I was a 20 year old single mom with next to no education, yet there was help for me. Social Services helped me understand my rights and put me in contact with the right people to help me get through court. There is also legal aid. If you are refused the first time (and usually those who apply are), appeal it and apply again. Lawyers offer free consultations. Phone around for the ones who do and meet with them. Don't pick the first lawyer who agrees to take your case. Find one you are comfortable with. Now, a couple more things. First of all, you are the mother of your children and that gives you the upper hand unless he can prove you unfit. If the child lives with you, you are the primary guardian, and you are a caring parent, it is not likely you will lose custody. During the time you are going through court, do NOT let the child alone with the other parent for a second! If he has the opportunity to take that child, you may not see him/her again until the end of the custody battle. If the child's other parent is abusive in anyway, try to get proof (police reports, pictures, witnesses.) In extreme cases, you can go right to the court house and get temporary custody and a restraining order against him. The biggest mistake I've seen mothers make in situations like this is being afraid to stand up for themselves by way of pulling out proof and protecting themselves the way they should. Like calling police and getting reports for any harassment, threats, etc. Other than that, provide a secure, loving environment for your child/children and don't go on the rebound dating and partying your weekends away and you'll be fine. As long as you don't give your ex any ammunition he can threaten, cry, scream and spit until his face turns blue but you will still have custody of your children. Good luck all and remember that it is never as bad as it seems. Keep your head up and it will be okay.-- posted by kgurrl
» Jaidensmum - Re: For all the women in custody battles and divorce court
I am a first time Mother. I can certainly empathize with all of the single mothers even though I am not one. I was raised by one and my sister is a single mom of three. I completely understand that there are vindictive men out there (my EX-husband for instance - with whom I had no children - thank goodness) who will use anything against you in order to be able to gain custody. HOWEVER, there are also many, many vindictive women out there who will do anything and grasp at many straws in order to get what they want, never taking into consideration what is in the best interest of the child(ren). It is these women who I wish would get their "just dessert".Pefect example: my "husband" now has just finished proceedings with one ex with whom he has a daughter and is still going through proceedings with another ex regarding his alleged son (still to be determined as he caught her cheating on him before she announced pregnancy). Both of these women were out for nothing more than control and money. My "husband" was consistantly degraded in front of his daughter which ultimately pushed him away from the situation. So, despite alternate methods in order for him to see his daughter, she still found a way to make him feel nothing more than worthless and just gave in and gave up. She got her control and sole custody and he got nothing; not even the right to see his daughter. He just could not deal with her anymore and we don't have the financial means to pay for agencies to help. So, he just pays his support and that's that. We can't afford a lawyer to appeal this right now. I feel bad that our 17-month-old daughter will not have the please of growing up with her (half) sister (who is five).
In the matter of the other ex (about the boy), he had access when the child was an infant and the ex just up and moved without notifying him. This was about 10 yrs ago. She never told the child about my husband. The child doesn't know who he is or that he even exists. The boy grew thinking another man is his father. For 10 years my husband has been paying support. Just last year she made her presence known and he filed papers against her immediately. He requested a paternity test and offered to pay. She was extremely hesitant and agreed to let him off the hook in paying support if only he would not start the proceedings and stay away. Then she changed her mind after conversing with the other ex (they never knew eachother until recently and the other ex tried to use this matter against him in court with their case). She even told the Judge that she didn't want to have the testing done. The Judge said that if she was 100% certain that the child is his, she wouldn't have a problem agreeing - especially since he offered to pay for all costs. The testing was ordered by the Court (we are in Ontario). It has yet to be completed as he is working on saving the money (we've even moved in with my sister and the kids to save).
So you see, it's not all the men. There are some nasty women who just see dollar signs and don't care that kids NEED both parents (depending on the circumstances). Thankfully, even though my parents have been divorced for 20+ yrs, they are still friends. Not only is it good for my sister and I (even as adults), it's also good for our children; their grandchildren.
I'm a firm believer that BOTH parents need to take every measure available to put their own emotions aside in order to focus on what would be best for their children. Utilize all of the resources that are available to you in order to make your kids happy and their lives a little easier. Do NOT use them as weapons or as leverage. So many parents just don't know how dangerous this is.
-- posted by Jaidensmum
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