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» better256 - Fear I can testify to the inhibitions that fear creates in the mind and body. I am currently battling it. I am job hunting right now and it seems the longer I am unemployed the more nervous I am and the more I am doubting my ability to function in any of the areas I have been trained to function in. It has reached a point where the mere thought of anything jobl related makes me get all kinds of strange feelings in my body. I have heard of people talking of panic attacks and I really do feel I am experiencing them for the first time in my 54 years.-- posted by better256 » feistyfemale56 - Re: Fear What I've found to be true is that the fear of dying keeps one from living--at least living a life with quality.Fear is also one of the toughest emotions to deal with because the physical sensations that accompany fear make the whole experience somehow more valid. When I feel sad or happy or concerned, I may have some physical manifestations, but nothing to grab my attention like the signs/symptoms of fear. Useful article, Jerry. We can't fix what's wrong until we recognize the problem; I think your article will help some people recognize themselves in your words. -- posted by feistyfemale56
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Job hunting at age 54 is certainly a daunting task. Rejection is a powerful fear, one I've experienced recently myself, though not in a job situation. You will benefit from some disciplined visualization. Make a list of your strengths and your successes. Read through that list every day. As you read through it, dwell on each success, bringing back all the emotion you felt at the time it occured. Then, still feeling that emotion, visualize success in your next job interview. Repeat this every day and just before you have any job interviews, follow ups on resumes submitted, etc. Your positive state of mind is extremely important at this stage. You might change your goal from getting a job to getting one or two high quality interviews each week. To do this you may have to make a dozen calls each day. Do it. But first go through your success list and transfer the feeling of success to the call you are about to make. I have a multi-step process that could help you further; contact me if you'd like more information. Coachjerry -- posted by Jerry Lopper
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In his book, Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom quotes Morrie as saying you can't know how to live until you know how to die. I've seen the fear of dying constrain the joys of living in myself and many others. We really do have nothing to fear but fear itself. Coachjerry -- posted by Jerry Lopper » muzart - Re: Fear In response to Fear posted by better256:You know one can get really overwhelmed by all the feelings you get when you start to panic. It often help to define the things you that scares you most. That can help you figure out which of them you can do something about and which ones you need help. Could it be that the biggest problem is not that you are unemployed but that you feel that your value to everybody is decreasing and the fear is that you will be worthless? I am of the belief that one need to understand what you are fighting against. Educate yourself about what others just like you have experienced. Then you can put a battle plan together of how you wish to combat those fears to help yourself get ahead. -- posted by muzart » Fairdinkum - Re: Fear In response to Fear posted by better256:After numerous messages 'The Page Cannot Be Displayed' I feared I would never be able to read the article. When I suffered multiple injuries in a 3-car pile-up in 1996, I genuinely feared ever sighting that intersection again let alone passing through it. I did face that fear once sufficiently physically recovered some 6 months or so later and found it much of an anti-climax. A much lessened anxiety..a positive outcome. The complex fear..the fear which included not wanting to develop a phobia. The article is great as the point is to self-audit your fear being the way to go. Identify the real cause but focus on the solution, not the problem. The problem is not the fear, it's the lack of work or income for example. I hate labels. I don't know what is the best label to work on...self doubt, fear or anxiety...if they are all defined as synonymous. But as I've walked backwards over a cliff (abseiling) etc and rode a motorbike (no car) for about 40 years, I became de-sensitised to some fears and being on the other side of several crises in my life know about the enemy's weak spots ie 'fear'. Job hunting at 54 stirs a lot of acidic juices. The experience of friends of mine on being made redundant..was to pursue and win jobs totally outside their usual field, even when told they wouldn't make it. A clerk became a cook..a credit manager became a computer 'repairer' etc. Me..I feared being carted out of work in a pine box ie under circumstances not of my choosng vs feared the alleged nothingness of retirement but I retired at 53...5 years ago. Jeff -- posted by Fairdinkum » adrienneskids - Re: Fear In response to Fear posted by better256:i can identify with how you feel. I went to college and achieved 80.5 credits toward a business administration degree. I left school to become my niece and nephews foster mother, but everytime i tried to go back i seemed to be gripped with fear to the point of when the day came to actually go and choose my classes all I could do was stay in bed. Now years later, I know that it is the right thing to do, but for whatever reason I just can't bring myself to taking the steps to make it happen. Sometimes I can take the preliminary steps to get information but never so far further than that. I feel like I am my own worst enemy. What is the problem here, I have no idea, but maybe in time together we will figure it out. I once heard the phrase fear of failure applied to the situation, but somehow it seems to be a little more to it than just that. -- posted by adrienneskids » dinkidi - Re: Re: Fear In response to Re: Fear posted by adrienneskids:How about attempting a "transitional" year. Not aimed to get you passing every subject but aimed at getting you back into the discipline and routine and method and commitment of study. It added a year to my studies but was worthwhile. Six months in I think it took me but I felt I was a real student and regained my "rhythm". You won't be failing...you will be succeeding in returning to study...escaping whatever comfort zones you've created for yourself. Jeff -- posted by dinkidi
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