How to get her back?
- janrosecky
- SystemOFaDown
- Stang70
- guinee_pig_11
- Reckless_Dj
- dbko15
- rothco20
- rothco20
- rothco20
- sonyjay
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» janrosecky - Getting her back
-Hi, could someone give some advice. I've tried to make it short.For 1 year I went out with a girl, 17. I'm 21. First love and sexual partner/vice-verca. Once alone together for 30 days in a campervan, good fun + co-operation. When we got back, didn't want me to leave 
I never stopped her going out with her friends BTW. I went OS for 7 weeks. Talked/email -she's not bitter, no 'i like this space'. Just 'I want to spend an endless amont of my life with you'(neither cheated)
I'm back, passionate first day. She gives card from 2 days be4, loving/committed stuff. I showed her my love+gifts. I'm enthused to be back, with her, positive. Once says 'it's all so easy for you isn't it'. Next day she wants to breakup! She's willing to talk, not compromise, says it's just her, she's confused. Needs to find herself,'big break'. Not lead me on/make me wait, wants to be friends. I mention getting back together, she'd go cold. Once i didn't, we spent 4 hours in person talking about other stuff, mucking around,jokes - nice.
I understand her, I want to wait about 2-3 months. She's 18 soon, I want her to find places /people she likes, without my influence. Wish i could enjoy this break, I'm too sad. I only want her. Hasn't told me much about her feelings. She seems to be taking it lightly. Does this emotion come later for the person that dumps you? I want to send her a letter in two months saying that whatever she's become, I'll like, because it's her 'essence' i love. We now email each other, 'as friends'
I'm kinda moving on, question is, how can we get back together, but so that there's every chance of being together for 'ever'? Will 3-4 months ever be enough to 'find herself'? Should I let go, even resist getting back, for a year etc. It'd be hard being friends, you think her being reminded of 'ME' would be better, or un-influenced space.
Or should I just find another girl, will that snap her out of it? Any advice? Thanks. janrosecky@hotmail.com
-- posted by janrosecky
» SystemOFaDown - Breaking up
Hey ppl i don't really like this posting thinghy but i guess i have no choice left so here goes.I broke up with my gf because her mom is a bit'h and told her daughter that if she dosen't brake up with me she will have to move to california and live with her dad. i didn't do anything to her mom i was the "nice guy" in her house and always helped her around but she said that i look like one of her doughter's X's that used to beat her up so she does not want me to go out with her. after 2 weeks of her mom's decision i was in heaven every day and all i wanted to do is be with her but after those 2 weeks we "broke" up well at least that is what her mom knew and all her friends but we were still meeting after school and in weekends. 2 days ago she said that she does not want to be part of this DRAMA anymore and that the best thing to do is completley brake up. i really had a feeling i could make her mom change her mind but i guess she didn't want me to even try.
SHOULD i just drop it or keep on fighing?
-- posted by SystemOFaDown
» Stang70 - Help. I need her
A little while ago my girl and I broke up.. but we still dated and still loved each other. She asked for me back and I said no.. then she said she wanted to be just friends. I was so upset I hung up the phone and I didnt answer it for a while. I later answered and said I was sorry. I told her I wanted her back. SHe said it was too late. She loved me more than anything but I hurt her by rejecting her. Now she has a new man.. and she said she was only with him to try and get over me. TOday we had a talk and she said I hope down the road me cross paths and we have another chance. she said she could be with many men, but she will never love them like she did me.How can I make things right. Had I only answered the phone sooner things would not be how they are now. I love her so. I need her so. I dont think its right for us not to be together because I just didnt speak up sooner. I know I was wrong in doing what I did. BUt I am a changed person and want to make things right.
Help
-- posted by Stang70
» guinee_pig_11 - Re: Help. I need her
In response to message posted by Stang70:I spilt up with my girl 4 mnths ago after 3 years...yesterday we got back togerther and I am really, really happy. Your case sounds very similar to mine. Just keep at it buddy and you'll get back together, just keep your head up high and keep in contact with her.
-- posted by guinee_pig_11
» Reckless_Dj - How to get her back & will i?
Well about 3 weeks ago i broke up with my girlfriend Lauren i had been with for a year and a half. I broke up with her because i was seeing alot less of her and to be honest i was drinking excessive amounts! I was drunk nearly everyday. So when i broke up with her i got with a girl called Jamie. She was wonderful and everything but she just was not the right person.I soon ended it and tried to get back with Lauren. I rang her on a saturday night before she was going round a mates house and it was the first time we talked. You could tell she was off with me. But since then we are really good mates. I keep telling her how much i love her and want her back. But she aint having it. On the phone she mostly nearly always before we hang up tells me she loves me and then hangs up and says bye. She told me she wanted along time apart, just being friends and then give it a go. She was talking about a year break!
She later on told me shes been seeing this boy alot. It hurt me the thought of what she had with me she might have with someone else. Do you think ill ever get her back? How do i act towards her now? How long do you reckon it would be before she wants me back? Please write your view to me. Cheers.
Reckless
-- posted by Reckless_Dj
» dbko15 - heartbreak
Three days ago my girlfriend and I broke up after 3 years. we started dating when I was 17 and her 15. she is now at a point where she feels like I am all she knows and is scared of never finding herself. I respect that but she is my everything i have given up a lot of things in my life for this girl and now I have no idea how to get her back nor cope with my life it has totally thrown me off balance. I have confidence about finding other good looking women. but none can turn me on the way she did. I know this cause it happend once about a year ago and i was able to get women but everything was a comparison and nobody added up.-- posted by dbko15
» rothco20 - Need her back
I've been broke up for a month now, we were together for 4yrs had an apartment and a beautiful 3yr old daughter. I'm only twenty, i know but she's the one I know it. I broke up with her because I was foolish, wanted to be with friends and she didn't like that to much plus alcohol and partian. So a week or two and I feel oh man I made a big mistake, so I go to get her back and she's found this guy who swept her off her feet and is loaded with money. So I can't compete obviously, I'm not poor but we did live on our own so. Anyways she says she loves him and there getting married probably,something she's always wanted but I never popped the question. So here I am, Begged and pleaded still no sign she even cares, said i could change and did for us not he or me but us and now this, her getting married. She's the one and all I want to do is come home to her and my daughter every night for the rest of my my life but I'm afraid i'll have to move on and don't want to. WHAT DO I DO? NEED HER BACK-- posted by rothco20
» rothco20 - Re: Re: Help. I need her
In response to Re: Help. I need her posted by guinee_pig_11:How did you do it, I posted a message, tell me what you think/
-- posted by rothco20
» rothco20 - Re: Help. I need her
In response to Help. I need her posted by Stang70:My story is almost exactly like yours I told her no when she asked for me back and now it's to late and I need help too. Only thing different is that she might be getting married soon and I have no time, I love her to much to lose her.
-- posted by rothco20
» sonyjay - Re: Help. I need her
heyi was wondering if you could help me out man
i broke up with my gf about 3 months ago
we were in a two year relationship
i m trying hard to get her back
she wants to be friends at this point
i know somewhere inside she wants to be with me
but she s scared of what her friends are going to say
do u have any suggestions??
thanks
-- posted by sonyjay
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