How to Support a Survivor
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- Sabrina7
- svali
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- hard2beme
- modelbill
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» Sabrina7 - How to Support a Survivor
This is wonderful and terrific and if you have it you are very lucky. But most of the people I know, including myself, who have this to deal with do not have any friends as their entire life has been controlled by the cult. How do you get someone like this in your life when it is so screwed up? Who would want anything to do with you unless they were a perp? Lol, I don't know how to be normal. I don't know what normal is. And I don't know how to be when I am around people who are normal. I always feel like such a freak.-- posted by Sabrina7
» svali - Re: How to Support a Survivor
In response to message posted by Sabrina7:Sabrina,
My article was intended to be a call to action for those who know survivors. There ARE caring people out there who are safe, it's just hard to find them. I went years with a support system of one (my therapist), and it has been very cautiously and carefully that I have reached out and let others into my life. Unfortunately, by then I had done most of my healing! But my article is meant to show support people how they can be helpful, usually through churches.
best wishes,
svali
-- posted by svali
» Sabrina7 - Re: Re: How to Support a Survivor
In response to message posted by svali:Hi, Just wanted to say I understand your intent and I think you did a great piece here. Just wondering how realistic it is and commenting on my sorry state. lol One of my alters owns several support group type lists on Yahoo! and we are recommending a lot of your articles (we've read a bunch in the past few days) to the list members. Keep up the great work!
-- posted by Sabrina7
» hard2beme - on not having a supportive person who cares
Hi,My system is called TheCountry. I am Suzie the historian. As I read this article to all in the system, also cindy who is the presenting alter, she realized what we all must do. We have never had a marriage in which our partner was supportive. He verbally, emotionally, and mentally kept us from healing. We read this, and as God is my witness, We, and she knows we must divorce. We are in a safe place, and need prayers very much right now. So, please, anyone who reads this message, know that if you read this article, make sure you do have a safe person who wants you to heal. This article helped me realize that I/we can not heal in a relationship as this one was. Even though it was for 27 years.
Thanks Svali,
TheCountry
Suzie/Cindy
-- posted by hard2beme
» modelbill - Re: on not having a supportive person who cares
In response to message posted by hard2beme:Suzie/Cindy,
Please, before you proceed with divorce know this... your husband needs healing too. Any marriage that is having difficulty can be made whole if each spouse will individually seek and receive their own healing. Please investigate Theophostic Ministry for BOTH you and your spouse... www.theophostic.com and www.kclehman.com. Our Lord Jesus is using this ministry to set free victims of ritual abuse as well as other trauma/lie-based issues. Divorce is not God's perfect will for us.
In Christ Jesus,
Bill
-- posted by modelbill
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