Can Recovered Memories Be Trusted?
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- bluemerle1960
- svali
- scattered
- chris59
- NauticaMourey
- CoboltBlue
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» bluemerle1960 - They do happen
I wasn't involved in ritual abuse but had several family members who sexually abused me. My memories have started to come up in nightmares that have a certain type of quality about them. It is hard to explain but in the dream, I know I am dreaming and that the information coming thru is important to remember. The strangest thing is that during these incidents, I will invariably be hitting on my husband to wake him up and once he responds, I begin talking in my sleep to him. I tell him what is important and what needs to be remembered.-- posted by bluemerle1960
» svali - Re: They do happen
In response to message posted by bluemerle1960:Tenna,
I think that the experience that you are describing is fairly frequent in survivors, since the nightmaring (and memories coming up at night) make sense: many of the memories occurred at night in many cases. And I'm glad your husband is supportive of you in your healing journey.
Best wishes,
svali
-- posted by svali
» scattered - Re: Re: They do happen
In response to message posted by svali:well, here i am, going off the deep end..i have chronic nightmares..had recurring ones for ages, until i told of them, and then things fell into place and i don't get them as much,(about people and places) but many with the same themes i still have constantly..i'm always bleeding vaginally and rectally and i'm covered with dirt and urine and feces..really pleasant...doesn't matter where i go, i end up looking like that..or i'm stuck in places i don't want to be and can't get out and people are laughing at me and i tell them this is all a dream and they all call me by name and tell me it's not a dream.
i'd like to know how come when i finally choose to believe what has happened to me and does happen to me now, it's like an instantaneous switch..i acknowledge something and then i take it back and start putting myself down, calling myself crazy..sick, stupid, a moron..on and on..
and if that is not bad enough..i will berate myself for telling such lies..they are not true..i'm sick..i can hear this person in me directing me and yelling at me and i feel like such scum and vow to never speak again..so if they are lies, then why does this cycle keep going on and on with me??? is this a sick mind? TELL ME SOMEONE TELL ME!! I am sorry, i'm so damn frustrated to live like this!! I want to keep my mouth shut and just get on with my life, but why does this keep coming up? then i think i will go crazy if i don't get it all out and get help, but then switch, there i am again belittling myself, degrading myself, discrediting myself...you know, i can't keep going on like this and i don't have a clue how to stop this!!
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-- posted by scattered
» chris59 - Re: Re: Re: They do happen
In response to message posted by scattered:scattered I am not a survivor but I am a friend of two survivors and I have to say that what you are experiencing is normal. Please dont try to bottle it up, talk about it, share with other survivors and , if you can, confide in a friend who will stick by you and support you. Do remember that this is not your fault, that you have done nothing to deserve what you are going through. There is an answer, that answer is the power of God alone, He can and will set you free if you call on Him. Hugs honey, there are people around who will be only too pleased to be there for you, take care, Chris
-- posted by chris59
» NauticaMourey - Preminitions
I am not sure if this is out of line but it is what I have learned about these different types of situations. If you experience something in a dream or see it somehow whether you are awake or dreaming it doesn't necessarily mean that it happened to you in this lifetime or even at all. Some psychologists will tell you that your subconscious sometimes shows you things in your past lives or even shows you things to warn you of things that will happen to you or someone that you love. I was never sexually abused but I do have friends that were sexually abused and although it is normal for them to have dreams such as those...there are also people that I know that have similar sightings that were not in any way sexually abused as a child but have found out that they experienced some kind of sexual abuse later after their premonition of one.I don't know if this is the case but I don't want all of you to believe that it happened when it might have not even occurred.
-- posted by NauticaMourey
» CoboltBlue - Re: memories
a few weeks ago i had a really strange dream about a prison, a group of us was being taken there for some kind of military testing.. the dream was so detailed, i think it was a memory, so i wrote it all down when i woke up.. ive had a few dreams like that, i usually wake up feeling very heavy and almost tearful..ive had alot of really intense memories that seem so bizarre that its hard for me to believe they are real.. i have thought about it alot, and i figure that even if a person makes up a story and say its a memory, they cant make up the intense emotions that come with it.. when i get a memory, theres alot of intense emotions with it.. we struggle alot with thinking that the memories are made up, but i try to remind myself of these kind of things.. its real, not made up.. its so hard sometimes..
-- posted by CoboltBlue
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