Deliberate Disobedience?

» rahunter_nf - But You Did

Sigh...you can never win..

But you did...by creating out of your partner's and your conversation an interesting article containing sound advice for parents.

Merry Christmas to you and your family.

-- posted by rahunter_nf

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» Nazareth - Re: But You Did

So let me get this right- You're trying to raise your boys & teach them that their views are important, but the views of your grown boy (your husband) are wrong & need "correcting" by your views? Doesn't that send mixed message to the young boys?

I think it is important for kids to be heard and listened to but they do need boundries, do need limits and do need structure- after all, they will be facing these things in the real world when they work, play or whatever. I think it's counter productive to teach them that their feelings and ideas are all that matters- this will only lead to confrontation with the law and authorities as they get older. Respect of authority is a high moral standard, the collapse in society we see is a direct result of everyone demanding their own way & demanding that their "rights" be acknowledged (while trampling on the rights of others).

I look around me at the people I grew up with & don't see a "traumatized generation" I do however see a generation that although opinionated, are respectful of other people. I look around at todays generation & see an opinionated generation that is disrespectful of others, always demanding their rights.

Sparing the rod (failing to set ground rules and enforce them-(not talkin abuse- I'm talking discipline) was something God warned against- people scoff at this- but I think the results are clear as the "spock" generation has reached maturity & their kids are now entering the accountability ages.

I was "heard" growing up, But, I was also disciplined & had boundaries- I may have resented those boundaries when a teen, but now I am thankful for parents that cared enough to set boundaries that were in my best interest (though I didn't realize it at the time). Love isn't always hugs and kisses and winks and nods- love hurts sometimes.

-- posted by Nazareth

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