runaway rebellious teen and attitude

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My 14 year old ran away. She's seeing a 17 year old boy who is almost 18, she broke up with a very caring boy 1 year older than her. This 17 year old lied to me on the phone, said he was her old boyfriend, why?! I yanked her phone, she knows I hate lies. she packed, scrambled past me and ran. The cops looked, but it was her friends who told me she stayed the night at this older boys home, her friends don't like him. I have never met the boy, I spoke to his mother about my concerns, she seems not to care. My daughter was at a friends home, gave her some space. My daughter called to informed me that she isn't coming home, she says she's in control, and I have no say, that hurts, yet I want to yank her back home. I treat her good, harsh when I need to be, but I am loving and talk to her about school and stuff. she came beating on my door wanting some stuff, I did not let her in, told her she could have her stuff when she returns home, she cussed at me like I have never heard before, but I felt good not giving in. She is with my older daughter now, they get along great.
My daughter was later caught with the 17 year old at my older daughters apartment complex that she manages, the boy and my youngest daughter went to an apartment that belongs to an 18 year old. My older daughter called the truancy cops, they came and talked to the kids. My daughters progress report from school came, she has been absent 5 times in some classes and only 1 time in her last class, I do not know what to make of this. My youngest again ran off but my mom and daughter spoke with the mother, my daughter came back (her clothes and makeup is there, that is why).T he cops would not get involved because we knew where she was and did not make an attempt on our end to get her, we informed them that she has escaped our attempts in the past and will also do so again. I need to get some smarts into my childs head???? My child stole from me, lied to me, and blamed me for not leaving her stuff as she left it in our apartment, I told her that her stuff will be in bags and boxes until I know she is coming home, tough love has hit me, and she owes me for the money she took, she says if I would of let her in to get her stuff she would not have taken my money???? She wants and wants and does not care what I give, so sad. Helpful advice again would be sooooo appreciated.

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