Teen girls dating older boys
- iamaham1115
- OlderBro17
- OlderBro17
- dobiechic87
- nymami699
- hotguy26m
- mm21
- blukattt
- writerinprogress
- browneyedgirl89
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» iamaham1115 - No Subject
I do not really see any reason for a 20-year-old male to go out with someone 7 years younger than him. There has to be someone that is HIS age that he would like and not someone who hasn't even started puberty. (haha...) Let's say this: Jill (female age 20) wants to date Jack (male age 15). What would someone say to this? Let's ask me. What do you say? I say that this isn't a very good relationship (opinion). The way I see it is like this: The larger the age difference, the more the relationship is about how the person looks. If their personality is very poor but their complexion is very nice, would you still stay with them? Let's return to Jack and Jill. Jack has suddenly become a rude person to Jill, but what does Jill say? I don't know, but let's think about it on some other post. To me, love is more about how the person acts more than how the person looks. My mother married someone who was the same age and according to her very good looking. My mother had the feeling not to marry him but ignored it and she was wed to someone she thought was very annoying (which he was). For 3 years, my mom stayed with him until she couldn't take it anymore and got divorced. I guess the lesson is this: Only dedicate yourself to someone who is very nice to you and who you know isn't putting some act on just to get you. What if you didn't know how the person looked because you were blind. They treated you very nicely and tended to your needs. Then suddenly, your vision came back and you did not see that the person was physically unappealing. Would you still stay with them or go to someone that looked nice but told you to go help yourself? Sorry if I am being rude to anyone in this bit.-- posted by iamaham1115
» OlderBro17 - Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: why do younger girls like older boys
Yo first of all I know girls no a days mature really quickly. I am 17 years old and have a 13 year old sister, and believe me I have gone through a lot with her. But, thanks to God above all else I have surpass them, because my lil'sister knows how to defend herself. I don't know your boyfriend, but from what I'm hearing in your letter I would like to know what a 19 year old wants to do with a 14 year. Okay I understand your father was 30 and ur moms was 18 when they hooked up, but that doesn't mean that it will be right for you. Like I said before I don't know ur man maybe he is a great guy, but I know how guys think like my cousin he's 23 and only gets with girls who 14, 15, 16, and 17. I tell him time after time that that is abuse right there and that he needs to get a girl around his same age.U said that u would marry him if only u were two years older. My sister said almost the same thing when she was 12 and was dating a nigga that was 18. But I made her think. I said "you would put your own family through hell by making them worrying about you get beaten up by your boyfriend whom we don't even know is capable of. If he really cared about he would tell u not to do that, because he knows that he will separate an innocent girl from her family, but he don't and u say he cares about U!"
Well thats it please write back or hit me at me email:UrChulo98@yahoo.com. Sorry about how it sounds but all the clean ones were taken. Good luck with your relationship, because I am not condeming your boyfriend because I don't even know him to talk. Thanks for your time. My name is Fausto Junior Gomez.
-- posted by OlderBro17
» OlderBro17 - My personal opinion coming being 17 myself
My name is Fausto Jr. I am 17yrs old now. Let me tell u some thing by the time u 17 he will me 21 and there he will really have to be careful what he does with you. Even trying to date is considered rape, because your a minor but by the time u hit 18 u will be free to date him.My advice tell him how u feel, because like I tell my little sister by the time u reach that age u want he'll probably have a girl of his own age. Or just give him a letter guys love that, because even if he doesn't start to see as a girlfriend he'll keep in mind that u like him and he'll flirt with u. Plus he will keep in mind when u turn 18.
DONT EXPECT HIM TO WRITE BACK TO U GUYS DONT LIKE TO WRITE BACK, ESPECIALLLY OLDER GUYS. IF HE DOES THAN HE IS AN EXCEPTION DONT EXPECT IT TO HAPPEN THOUGH.
If u want to go more into detail my screen name is UrChulo98@yahoo.com
-- posted by OlderBro17
» dobiechic87 - Re: Re: older guys
In response to message posted by dougefreshus:I am only 16 and currently dating a 25 year old.I know most people would think a man like that would be sick in the head, but to be honest he is very respectful and would never and has never forced me or even asked me to do anything I wouldn't want to do. Isn't that what every guy should do in any relationship, no matter what the age? I love him dearly, and I will do anything in my power to keep him as close to me as possible.
I know other people will have and do have a problem with that but in my opinion age is just a number and depending on how mature a person is should decide if the other person would be a good match to date. This guy and me, are great together and enjoy eachothers company. Of coarse we have our arguments like any other relationship would, but we get over it and move on to the next step. We have a lot in common and then on the other hand we don't. So its a 50/50 match!! But, want to be with him and I'm going to be with him no matter what people say. And I mean if things don't work out, then I can't change anything about it. I guess you can say I am very mature for my age, I do get that a lot from people, but
if I wasn't this mature i wouldn't understand why people would have a problem with this. I can understand it, and in a way agree with it, but for the most part I don't. Age shouldn't determine who your allowed to date and who your not, I think it should be the way a person acts and how mature a person is. It's just like saying you can't go to college with out a diploma, you can as long as you get you G.E.D.!!!! If age was such a big hassle with relationships, then it wouldn't happen everyday all over the world where people fall in love with a big age difference. And we all know it's happened to almost all of us.
-- posted by dobiechic87
» nymami699 - y do older guyz like younger gurlz
iM 14 N i love diz guy whoz 21 n were together but he thinks im 17 so i need peoplez advice sould i tell him about my age or not?...cuz he realli doess love me n weve been going together for 6 months wat do i dooooooo ??????????????-- posted by nymami699
» hotguy26m - Re: Too old?
In response to message posted by HYAH14:I am 26 and happen to be in a relationship with a younger girl...half my age to be exact, we met online and we have been together for a little over a month now. She has never been happier in a relationship, and is a sweet girl. I dont care about the age difference, and neither does she...
she is the greatest girl i have ever met,(girls my age included. My friends think I am weird for it, but they thought i was weird anyway, lol.
Her dad is okay with it because he sees how happy she is with me. I even went to visit her for her b-day. And, she has told me several times how she wants to live with me...to be honest i dont care about the age,(there is a cut-off point for me however) and i never even considered dating a girl her age. So, HYAH14 i say go for it, you can tell your parents that you want to see him no matter what, thats what my g/f did and we are all the better for it. we were honest with her dad and he actually likes me(which is cool). He can see I wouldnt hurt her and how much she loves me.
Hope i helped
-- posted by hotguy26m
» mm21 - Re: Re: older guys
I am 12 years old, and i like an older guy who is in his 20s, maybe around 23. I think he likes me too but I'm not quite sure. I just wanted to say that i totally agree with you about AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. If you really like someone that much, just go for it. It really doesn't matter the age! Bye! (:-- posted by mm21
» blukattt - Age is just a number?
I'm sick of hearing this "Age is just a number" phrase. I'm in the middle of the fence on this topic. Age shouldn't be a large factor in a relationship, UNLESS IT RAISES MORALE QUESTIONS. I can understand a 16 y.o. with say, a 21 y.o., but once you hit the ends of the spectrum, like a 12 y.o. with a 28 y.o., then it becomes unacceptable; from the younger's point of view, it's mostly infatuation, and I'll assume from the older's point of view, it's based more on physical appearance. So yeah, age "ain't nuttin but a number", but so is the amount of time spent in incarceration for statutory rape.-- posted by blukattt
» writerinprogress - Parents I know your concerned but
Parents I know that you are concerned about your daughter dating a older man but maybe you should give them a chance.I can understand if your daughter is 14 or under and is dating a man over the age of 21 but maybe you should get to know this man first. Let your daughter know that you want to meet this man before they can go on any more dates, but don't upset them. If you don't like this person then tell your daughter gently that she you do not feel it is safe for her to date him and give her good reason, she is a teenager.
If your daughter is 17 years old and is dating a man older then her (say 21-38) then tell her how you feel but let them make there own decisions. By this age your daughter should be mature enough to make her own decisions whether this man is good or bad for her.
-- posted by writerinprogress
» browneyedgirl89 - Guys
Im 14 years old...well turning 15 in 2 months. i secretly have a boyfriend,who is 6 years older then me. i like him allot, and my mom just doesn't seem to get the picture. she wont let me work with him.(i usual do)she wont let me go anywhere alone with him either. i always try to remind her that he is my only friend right now and that im being suffocated. im mature for my age, and she hates that. she wants me to act like a ditsy 15 year old but i canttttttttt..someone help!-- posted by browneyedgirl89
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