Teen girls dating older boys
- moralmom
- tweety_1
- jonijudas
- teen101
- HYAH14
- Babeegurl
- Babeegurl
- dougefreshus
- Paige43
- Paige43
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» moralmom - Re: Re: Re: why do younger girls like older boys
In response to message posted by Lexiegirl18:I have a 14 year old daughter and she likes an 18 year old boy who is also supposed to be a christian boy from a good family. First of all I have a serious problem with the age difference. I will not lower my standards to make my daughter happy, she can rise to mine and Gods. No 14 year old is mature enough to really have an adult relationship and that is what is expected of an 18 year old. I ask the question of all teen girls, what can you do with a boy you can't do with your friends? I feel at 14 there should be no dating or relationships that require romantic behavior. The whole purpose of dating is actually to look for romance and be more intimate with the opposite sex, so why on earth do so many parents think it is normal behavior for a teenager to rush into dating when adults even have trouble handling the dynamics of relationships. Whats wrong with friends period? Any guy who is adult age willing to encourage a young teen into a relationship has emotional problems regardless of his faith! Smart teens are more concerned with morals and character than having to have a boy friend. I realize that at that age the attraction to boys can be overwhelming, but that is where as a LADY we learn self control and if you need to socialize with the opposite sex do it as friends. 14 year olds have no business thinking they are mature enough to be in a relationship with an 18. If my daughter sneaks anyway she will suffer the consequences of her actions and this is a test of her loyalty and respect to her parents. I don't have to prove myself, she knows we love her and if she respects us she will honor us and raise her standards of behavior. Its girls that have no self respect that feel they have to have a boyfriend to feel complete. It is never love at 14, because real love is selfless, patient, committed and willing take on the responsibility of another life. Now how many 14 year olds are ready for that?
-- posted by moralmom
» tweety_1 - Re: Re: Re: Re: why do younger girls like older boys
In response to message posted by moralmom:Hi, I'd just like to say I am a 14.5 y.o and am dating a 19 y.o. You say that no 14 y.o is read or mature enough to have a relationship with an "adult". Perhaps...now I am just saying, but perhaps you should meet some other 14 y.o. girls. Don't use your own daughter as an example of the rest of the girls in the world. Or her friends for that matter, we tend to associate with people on the same level as ourselves. For my entire life older children have been my friends ranging fro 1 y older to 3 y older. My parents are all right with me dating this man because they themselves are 12 years apart. (mum being 18 when she met dad and him being 30). Now my bf's parents are against it only because they are against the fact that their son wants to date. They believe neither of us are ready. Now perhaps in general a 14 y.o is not ready but a 19 yo is. You say it is never love at 14? Perhaps not the love of a husband and wife. But still love none-the-less. I love my boyfriend, he is the best friend i have ever had, I feel ready to love him selflessly, patiently, to be commited and am very willing to take on the responsibility of his life. If I was but 2 years older I would marry him this year, but i'm not...let me know your thoughts!
-- posted by tweety_1
» jonijudas - older guys
Im 18 and I am seeing a 15 year old girl, we meet at a church (she is a Christian)n although I aint exactly mr church there are a lot of ideas in the Christian faith I agree with, I digress. Some people seem to have a huge problem with the age difference between us. I am a full 3 years older than her but we really like each other n its not like im trying to just get her pants off, I really care for her and I know she cares for me. Am I making a bid mistake or do I ignore wat people say and give it ago? We are both mature for our age and as it stands when I first met her I believed she was 17. any help is appreciated,-- posted by jonijudas
» teen101 - Re: Re: Re: Re: why do younger girls like older boys
In response to message posted by moralmom:I am 16 years old as of now, and i have had many significant others in the past. I could go on and tell you that i am involved in church, i do well in school, and come from a wonderful family, but it shouldn't matter. I have looked around at my friends and their relationships, and i see how many of them do extremely stupid things. Therefore being the reason for me having extremely high morals. My parents have not taken any step whatsoever to get to know any of my boyfriends, and often times it hurts. Even if you disapprove of the guy, take time to get to know him, and show your daughter that you accept him as a person, but be clear that you don't accept him as dating material. Isn't that what the bible teaches us?? Unconditional love? out of the 7 relationships i have had, i still have not had my first kiss, and all respected my morals and boundries. Also, if you don't do a little dating now, how are you sussposed to know when the right one comes along?? I have dated many guys, i now know more of what i want when i look for a life long companion. And, your daughter may not have only 1 reason as to why she likes the guy. A little while back, i became extremely stressed, and stopped having a desire to do well in school, and i stopped eating for a while. When i found out that an older guy liked me, his words, friendship ,and support helped me get 10 times better. I never got involved because he is 5 years older than I. I had many friends try to help, but only his words worked. You can pretty much count on most of the reasons for her liking this older man to be kept secret. If there is a negative change in beheivor, then yes, the interst is unhealthy, but until then, the least you could do is show her that you accept him as a person. And maybe at this stage in her life she does need a guys interest to boost her self esteem. Also realize that teens handle a lot more these days in highschool than most even 10 years ago. I respect your decisions as a parent, but i take note of almost everything my parents react to, say no to ect. I often times sit here and say that i will never do that to my children, but if you say no to everything, she will feel inclined to giver her children everything she never had. Now is that safe?
-- posted by teen101
» HYAH14 - Too old?
Hi I am 1 14-yo and I like a 20 year old... He also likes me but we both know that we are off limits until I turn 18. He is a Christian is going to college to become a teacher and works with me at the same place... That is how we met. I am wondering if it is wrong that we sometimes hang out at work or when I am not working and when he goes on break I go over to hang out with him and a couple of my friends. My Mom thinks I shouldn't be talking to him... But I see nothing wrong with it... Do you think he is too old for me to like and want to be with when I turn 17 or 18? What do you think?-- posted by HYAH14
» Babeegurl - Re: Too old?
In response to message posted by HYAH14:Do you think a 25y.o. man is too old for a 14 y.o. gurl? I don't as long as he treats you with respect and is never making you do ne thing you don't want to do. I care about him and all he said he fell in love with me but now me and him are over but I ain't worried about it because I know that tomorrow we will be back together because we are off and on now ever since this gurl named Brittani Smith came in between us. His friends don't like the idea of us being together but he doesn't care. Well shall I say didn't care I hope we end up getting together whenever I get a little older I think I should leave him alone for now otherwise I am going to end up getting him locked up. But I would love to read your stories so tell me what you think about me and this boy.
-- posted by Babeegurl
» Babeegurl - Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: why do younger girls like older boys
In response to message posted by tweety_1:Hey I feel you all the way but get this I am 14 and my ex boyfriend is 25 he doesn't look it though he looks like he is 17. I think that you can fall in love at 14. Because I did for the year I dated him but now we are over and I went down a little bit to were my boyfriend is the same age as me so ne ways. My mom was o.k. with it at first until she got to know him a little bit more. I still have mad feelings for him and if me and Jordan don't grow up to be together whenever I turn 18 then I am going looking for Snyde. Email me at Babeegurl_007@k92mail.com
Talk to you later!
-- posted by Babeegurl
» dougefreshus - Re: older guys
This message is for JoniJudas and others like him. I work for the Montel Williams show and am producing a show regarding couples in love and staying together despite what others say. I would love to get a couple where there is a age difference which has caused concern for others to disapprove. Please call me at 1800 987 5446 if you are interested. My name is Doug and I am at extension 344.Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you.
-- posted by dougefreshus
» Paige43 - Re: older guys
Hey, I know i'm not much help but I'm 14 and I really like this 18 y.o. He really likes me too. But he's going through the same process as you. He's scared of what others are gonna say. But when it comes to love it shouldn't matter. If she really like's you I know every thing she's going through. It really hurt's when you love someone that much and you can't have them because of some stupid number. AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. That's what I tell everyone. But I hope it works out. Cya.-- posted by Paige43
» Paige43 - Re: I have a 14 y.
This is to Iowalt9. Hi, I'm 14 and I like this 18 year old too. I'll try to give you my best. If you try to stop her relationship it's just gonna make it worse and she'll never wan't to talk to you about anything again. Be positive with her. Just ask how their relationship is going. Be gentle! Just don't freak out about it! She's just a normal teenage girl in love. She's not the only one! It would break her heart if you wouldn't allow her to talk to him. And not just break her heart but shatter it. But most of teenage girls don't like to date guys in our grades because they're usually too imature. But just wait it out and let her go with the flow. I know that wasn't much help but it's coming from a teenager to a mom and i'm telling you this because me and ALL my friends have went through this stage. Bye-bye.-- posted by Paige43
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