16 year olds and power struggles

Top 13. May 14, 2003 2:26 PM

» sixteenyrold - Re: Re: Power Struggles

In response to message posted by oh2b20:
YOU FUCKING PRICK!!!!hello does she respect you? does she love you....i know i wouldn't after you fucked my life up like that...ooooooo take things away...if i ever talked to her i would tell straight up rebel against you....uh think bout it...i dont think she needs to learn ne thing bout growing up...i think you need to learn more bout parenting...

-- posted by sixteenyrold

Top 14. May 14, 2003 2:29 PM

» sixteenyrold - Re: unbelievable

In response to message posted by cocoabutter:

OKAY HITLER!!!!!....I DONT EVEN WANT TO TALK TO YOU YOU SHRINK...i'm sorry ne one over sixteen has the power to make their decissions...good or bad...i know if you were my mom i'd probably knock you on YOUR ass!!!

-- posted by sixteenyrold

Top 15. May 14, 2003 2:32 PM

» sixteenyrold - Re: Proper Age For Dating

In response to message posted by consuelo:

How old are u? 70!!!!!!fuck...if you've raised you daughter correctly...she wont do ne thing stupid...trust her...by the way...she'll never tell you she's going on a date if you chaperone...And how can you take that brief time of 14-19 away from her....these are highschool years...party, date HAVE FUN...teenage yrs aare the most important...loking back on our crappy significant others and laughing....dont ruin this for her

-- posted by sixteenyrold

Top 16. May 14, 2003 2:35 PM

» sixteenyrold - Re: Re: Re: Power Struggles

In response to message posted by bootter:

I agree with you...as a teenager...i know exactly what she must be feeling

-- posted by sixteenyrold

Top 17. May 30, 2003 3:18 PM

» AlexDad - Dating an Older Boy

I am a widowed father. I am 49 years old and I have a daughter who will be 17 in August. Last year she met a boy through her friends. They became friendly. He is very shy...so is she...and they really started to like each other.
He asked her out. They started dating but only saw each other in groups. Well, he comes over the house now....a couple of times a week. He seems nice but he gets very nervous in front of me and it has taken him a while to talk to me.
Here is the big issue. He is almost 21. He is going to a local college. My problem was, I allowed this to happen. I was not happy with it and we had quite a few discussions...but I allowed them to date. They both assured me that they are not interested in having sex right now. He told me he has never had it. I made it clear to them I do not want that to happen and he is not allowed in the house when I am not there. He has respected that. My daughter has her bedroom in my finished basement. She has had this room for at least 5 years. It is a very large room and all her things are there. TV, Computer, music, games, etc. There is no door to the room and the stairways leading down to her room has no door. She has privacy but I can hear everything that goes on down there. I allow them to spend time in the room but I am very watchful and aware. And I unaware of reality and am I making a terrible mistake? We just started counseling because I thought that maybe my daughter would come to realize that she needs to go out with guys her own age. The counselor added that she dated an older boy too when she was young! I need some advice!

-- posted by AlexDad

Top 18. Dec 11, 2003 9:22 AM

» mom705 - what to do

Here is my issue.....My daughter is 16. We had a huge fight a few weeks ago. She left my home and is now living with her Dad. I have apologized for my temper. She refuses to take responsibility for her part and will not apologize. I have spoiled her over the last 5 years because of guilt over the divorce. She has no respect for me its obvious yet she demands respect. The argument started when I asked her to heat up the leftovers and please make sure they were not burnt. When I came home from work the supper was a burnt mess. She was upstairs on the phone. It was the last straw. I blew up, she laughed it off. My dilemma, what to do. I love my daughter and want a relationship with her but I want respect too. I realize this is partly my fault for not requiring much from her. I want to fix this but I don't know how without going back to 'spoiling her'. I have told her that she will have to make the next attempt to patch this up. She called me once since then asking for money and when I said 'so you won't have anything to do with me but you want money' she hung up on me. If you were me what would you do?

-- posted by mom705

Top 19. Jun 4, 2005 7:35 PM

» GE8PIMPS - Re: Re: Re: Power Struggles

In response to Re: Re: Power Struggles posted by joysharp:

I TOO AM SIXTEEN AND AM GOING THROUGH SOME EXTREMELY DIFFICULT TIMES.I CAN ONLY GIVE YOU MY
OPINION ON YOUR SITUATION.I ALSO PLANNED ON
LEAVING MY HOME BECAUSE I COULDNT "HANDLE" WHAT
IM GOING THROUGH.BUT HONESTLY I THOUGHT ABOUT
WHAT I WAS ABOUT TO DO AND I REALIZED THAT IT WAS
STUPID AND THE ONLY REASON I WAS GOING TO DO THAT WAS TO GET A LITTLE MORE FREEDOM AND TRUST THAN WHAT I WAS GIVEN.MAYBE YOUR DAUGHTER FEELS AS IF SHE HAS NO FREEDOM OR TRUST FROM YOU.NOW THAT SHE IS GONE,BELIEVE IT OR NOT BUT THAT MAKES THINGS EASIER FOR YOU,I MEAN THAT THERE IS NO PLACE LIKE HOME AND SHE WILL COME TO REALIZE THAT AND TRY TO COME BACK.THAT IS WHEN YOU SHOULD TRY TO BUILD UP A NEW AND IMPROVED RELATIONSHIP WITH HER.BUT WHATEVER YOU DO,DO NOT START SETTING DOWN CONDITIONS AND THROWING THE PAST IN HER FACE.ABOUT YOUR SON,DONT TELL HIM THAT YOU WANT HIM TO GROW UP JUST STOP TREATING HIM LIKE A BABY!DONT COOK,CLEAN OR GIVE HIM MONEY.IF HE IS OLD ENOUGH TO BE SMOKING POT THEN HES OLD ENOUGH TO START LOOKING AFTER HIMSELF. EVENTUALLY HE WILL COME TO REALIZE WHAT HE HAS TO DO.

-- posted by GE8PIMPS

Top 20. Dec 5, 2005 6:32 PM

» Thuvia - Stop letting your daughter HOLD YOU HOSTAGE!!!

For starters, I was once a 16 yr.old girl myself and I "tested" my mother at every turn. I would suggest a counselor or mediator. Kids tend to open up to adults who aren't their parents. You'll get alot more info. out of them that way instead of fighting it out[which usually will get you nowhere]. But, above all, let her know that her actions will get her anything but respect, only resentment ,Also, YOU are the parent and as such, deserve the most basic of respect.Stop blaming yourself. You can't change the past, only the future. Do it! It's time you showed her that you're the BOSS!, not her; and that her mental manipulations aren't going to work anymore. By the way, if she wants money then she can get a #@*%& JOB. Don't let your ex give her a penny. She'll put up her best tantrum to date, IGNORE it. She'll wear herself out and get a clue! Trust Me!!!!! God Speed, you're going to need it but tough it out, girl! No matter what, every parent of a brat is on your side-and we win!!!!!!

-- posted by Thuvia

Top 21. Jul 22, 2006 6:52 PM

» me25 - Stop letting your daughter HOLD YOU HOSTAGE!!!

In response to Stop letting your daughter HOLD YOU HOSTAGE!!! posted by Thuvia:

k jsut because you are her parent doesn't mean you are right about everything. Instead of trying to show them who's boss and turning it into a power struggle which you claim they start but you probably start it too listen to what they are saying/ cuz as a kid it's always like adults think they are the boss and they are right just because they are adults.

Also parents can be brats too but you doint want kids saying "for every teen with a bratty parent we are rooting for you to win" Just think about it from a different point of view.

-- posted by me25