teen cutting herself, going into rages and abusing alcohol
- AworriedMom
- screaminginside
- AhelpingHand
- AhelpingHand
- ilovemusic
- reesescandy9
- lost_soul88
- willow41z
- lovelylilly
- MardRix21
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» AworriedMom - cutting
I just found today that our 18 year old son is cutting, and I don't know how to help him. He doesn't understand why I am so worried. Reading the posts has helped a bit and I will try to encourage him to seek counseling. Those of you whose parents know, how do they react? How do they handle their own hurt?-- posted by AworriedMom
» screaminginside - Re: cutting
hi. i'm 17, and my mom found out when i was 12 that i was a cutter. she didnt know what to do either. at first, she was really sad, then became angry because it happened so often. my mom asked if i wanted to see a therapist and i agreed, but at first, the therapist didnt help. then i stopped seeing her and managed to keep it under control. well, i snapped one day and cut myself really deep on my wrist and had to get stitches, that's when my mom decided to talk to me about why i cut. she got angry and said it was stupid, so dont do that. ask your son why he cuts, what he's feeling, maybe have him write things down or be around people when he feels like cutting. also, dont think that your son doesnt love you, he does. i, as a cutter, dont mean to hurt anyone with what i do, but nothing else helps yet. i hope this helps.-- posted by screaminginside
» AhelpingHand - Re: Re: Re: cutting help
In response to Re: Re: cutting help posted by lolliepop879:i do not think its a good idea not to tell... today is friday march, 11. about 3/4 of my friends cut... they tell me about it because i am known as the mrs. dr.phil at my skool. it is very hard for me to keep everything inside.. and my friends kno that. i however do not cut. i am strongly agianst it. yes, i have been a good friend and haven ot told anyone.. but i never realized how bad it was until i was looking for icon's for my xanga website.. i saw a lot of pictures of cutters cutting and people w/ blood dripping from their wrists.. i broke into tears for 2 hours and i am not experienced.. i have never cut.. and so i never realized how bad it was until saw those pictures. i think that if you have a friend who is cutting you should tell someone you can trust about your friends problem... in the end yes they may hate you.. or be mad at you.. but inside you know that you did the best you could and i would rather loose a friend than have them loose their life. if you have a friend in need of help.. get that help immediatly don't wait like i did until it gets to the point that your friend is passing out. monday i plan to go to the school counseler and i think that you should to.. do not keep this a secret when you can't make them stop you can't take the razors or anything away all you can do is help them the best you can and hope that they realize that you love and care about them and you did it for them and not to be a "taddle-tail" if you need/want my advice please im me on aim... sweetnothings334 im here... courtney-- posted by AhelpingHand
» AhelpingHand - Re: i do it too
In response to i do it too posted by ilovemusic:dear ilovemusic... im glad you told your friends... im glad to hear that.. my advice would b find other things to do besides cutting... like i do not cut but my friends that do are trying to stop and it helps them 2 put a rubberband on their wrist and if their hurting they flick their wrists w/ it... i've heard that helps.. another thing i can say to help is punch a wall cry do something else that would get your mind off of it.. life is short... i wouldn't wanna spend my life trying and trying and trying to not cut.. you need to stop mollie.. you need to ... for your own help.. i don't even know you and i care and love you... that may seem stupid but thats how i am.. their are plenty of "cutters" out in this world willing to help and tell their story your probably not going to read this bcuz you posted 2 months ago but if you do just remember that im hear for you and plenty of people love and care about you... you may feel like you need 2 be strong and so you cut instead of tell people your problems but hunn... your so strong to keep this a secret.. and you'll b so much stronger to let the secret out.. no ones going to hate you bcuz of what you do.. and if they do you don't need them in ure life.. im here anytime you need to talk about it... my sn on aim is sweetnothings334 just im me if you need to talk im here for you... courtney-- posted by AhelpingHand
» ilovemusic - Re: Re: i do it too
In response to Re: i do it too posted by AhelpingHand:thank you so much i will so be iming you shortly...i havent done it since january 28th. i know only almost 2 months. but hey thats a start right? if anyone ever needs to talk about their experinces or whatever im me ursolastsummerx0
-- posted by ilovemusic
» reesescandy9 - When will it stop?
Ive been cutting on and off for 6 months, i dont tell anyone bcuz i dont have that many friends im really close to, and me n my parents arnt that tite. So anyway i always do it when my mom yells and cusses at me or when this bitch named molly like makes fun of me. Like i just dont get why i cant stop, i do it bcuz it helps me feel better but like i jsut wish that my mom would stop yelling at me so that i could stop...ya..i dont kno what to do next.-- posted by reesescandy9
» lost_soul88 - Re: i do it too
In response to i do it too posted by ilovemusic:hey I feel exactly the same way. I have been doing it since last june and my dad found out but hes so stupid he didn't even understand. he just said dont do it again and forgot about it. I could never tell my mom but shes suspecting that i do it. i just couldnt ever tell my mom or dad.they wouldnt understand. sorry i cant help but im as scared as you are and i feel so alone. i wouldnt recomend telling your parents. theyd just get hurt.
-- posted by lost_soul88
» willow41z - Re: Re: i do it too
In response to Re: i do it too posted by lost_soul88:I think I might have made a mistake, based on what you said. I found out that my friend was cutting and I told her mom. Now I think I should have tried to help. I didn't know what else to do.
-- posted by willow41z
» lovelylilly - YOU DID THE RIGHT THING
In response to Re: Re: i do it too posted by willow41z:You know what??? If your friend trusts you, then things will be alright. She obviously told you for a reason. She wants help. I, too was afraid to say anything. I've told my friends what I do, but I just don't think I could tell my parents. Things at home are already tough enough...My mom is in the Army, and she's always gone. My stepdad is a truckdriver. My dad lives far away. I have no one to trust except my friends. They are there for me, just like you were for your friend. She may be angry at first, but in the end, it will only help her. One of my friends inspired me with the phrase "All bad things have to get worse before they can get better." Just remember that you're on your friends side. Don't let her shut you out, that would be the most dangerous thing. She NEEDS YOU, to be there for her and to talk with her. It could save her life. Just remember that you're helping her, and don't feel guilty for that. HAVE HOPE!!!
-- posted by lovelylilly
» MardRix21 - Re: cutting
In response to cutting posted by AworriedMom:My name is Kim and I'm sixteen years old. I came across this site, looks like its a little late for "AWorriedMan", but I thought I'd share my story. About a year ago, I became really depressed, mostly because I had such low self esteem. Two or three months into my depression, I started cutting. I didnt tell anyone until one day after writing a suicide note the night before, something came over me and it was like I stepped out of the situation and realized that i did not want to die and that the cutter I have turned into is not ME. I told my parents and I go to counseling, at first I didnt like it but it really started to help a lot. My parents didnt have to convince me to go to counseling at that point, because I knew this was unhealthy. When i told my parents they were surprised. They were both upset and my dad was confused, he called cutting "weird" which upset me even more. I knew that they wouldnt understand, cutting is all about communication. After talking about it, I just kneww both my parents would be extremely supportive and compassionate with me, and they were. you just have to let your son know youre there to listen, thats all i wanted. I didnt even want my parents to tell me they loved me and needed me, i just needed them to know how i had been feeling lately. All you really have to do is listen, and be supportive.
-- posted by MardRix21
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