one parent families

» Scotratrescue - Are they a scourge?

I am a single parent family. I have two great kids. They are loved and in a stable frame of mind. So why does society(British) treat you like a scourge? Are we supposed to stay within the confines of a brutal unloving marriage, because it looks better to have 2 parents, 2 incomes. Would I project a better image to society because I still have a husband? Would I be offered better housing, better jobs? More respect. Or would I be respected more for having black eyes and a broken nose? I do the best a mother can possibly do which isn't made easy with hurtful comments and people looking down on you. I may not live in the best part of town or have the latest gear etc but I am good person doing the best they can in the circumstances. What do others say,please feel free to pass on any comments.

-- posted by Scotratrescue

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» writermom13 - Not a scourge

I am sorry for the way you are treated. I don't think too many people expect women to stay in an abusive situation. I think the US is almost the opposite in some ways from what you describe. Here it's very much accepted for people to divorce for any reason, even just because they get tired of each other. The truth of the matter is that kids from one parent families have much greater risks than kids from two parent families for everything from drug abuse to teen pregnancy and violence.

Does that mean your kids worse off? Probably not, since your situation was abusive. But overall, most kids are worse off. I think it's sad when parents just separate for no good reason and put their kids through that. And it happens a lot in this country (the US). And I am sad every day for my own child, who at 9 has to deal with her parents not ever having married and with a lot of pressure and criticism from her dad because she will not side with him.

Divorce hurts kids. This may be why people look down on it. I only think it's too bad that people look down on divorced PEOPLE without making any attempt to understand the individual situation.

Jen Krausz

-- posted by writermom13

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