Deep Hate: Can It Be Changed. . .Before It's Too Late? : Re: Self Criticism

» Funked - Re: Self Criticism

I have just read through all the messages.. I believe God gave us all 'free will', and we cannot force change on others. We only have control of our own thoughts and beliefs, and our preconceived ideas of what other people are thinking. Many predjudices are formed from 'life experiences', and many are broken by 'life experiences'. The best way to effect change is not by just 'talking about it', but by living it.
I have been going through a few 'life changes' and have felt victimized over the last 5 months(My husband left me for a woman 18 years younger, after 31 years).. My belief is that all experiences in life are opportunities to learn and grow spiritually.. I recently read some lecture notes on 'Love Energy' from this site.. http://drmckenzie.com/ (bottom left of page)and it really has had the most profound affect on my way of thinking.. as simplistic as the thought is.. We all 'want'.. not to feel victimized, depressed, or hate over things beyond our contol. But if you can feel 'love', for yourself and others, it seems to banish away all bad thoughts.
I, in no way, think I am 'perfect'.. I have my bad habits.. (which I hope to change).. I feel that 'forgiveness' is a step in the right direction.. I just thought I would offer my opinion here. Thanks

-- posted by Funked