Fear of Reinforcing Negative Behavior

» biogardener - Thanks

Thanks for taking up your topic again, Sara. I missed it when you were gone.

The problem you raise in this article has come up several times in discussion questions in this community over the last year. I have always answered them. It is my belief as a mother and as a teacher of all age groups from preschool to senior that a child's behavior in hitting a parent is not a sign of hatred but a sign of frustration. Hitting the child back, as many parents do, only reinforces the belief that hitting is all right.

One of the most missed conclusions which I stress is the presence of allergies. I suffer from severe allergies and know that allergic reactions create hyperactivity. Hyperactivity then creates frustration. I have seen many children calm down completely when their allergies were dealt with. I do a lot of writing on this topic, because I have learned to control my allergies by completely natural methods without any help from the medical profession. I had a lot of help from German-trained natural health practitioners, and I am still learning, but I know that the methods work. There are now North American doctors who specialize in dealing with hyperactivity in children by completely natural methods, and they have been very successful.

-- posted by biogardener

Permalink Print Discussion Email Discussion Join the latest discussions

» msaraann - Re: Thanks

In response to Thanks posted by biogardener:

Thank you for bringing up the good point that allergies contribute to "undesirable" behaviors in our children. I also have severe allergies as do my daughter and niece who I also care for. Allergies have become very common. (Another topic I'm interested in, so I'll have to check out your articles.)

The discoveries of my daughter's gluten allergy and my niece's dairy allergy made a significant and positive change in the girls' tolerance for frustrations.

-- posted by msaraann

Permalink Print Discussion Email Discussion Join the latest discussions