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cosleeping after age 2...
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» jrstiglich - when does cosleeping stop? I have a 3 yr old son who primarily lives with his mother. I am a single male who has custody of his son sunday night through tuesday morning, I watch him at his mother's house wed, thur and fri mornings for a couple of hours until the babysitter arrives. I see him pretty much every day with saturday being an exception sometimes. My son (Gabriel) was conceived through a friendship agreement using a method of artificial insemination. Gabriel has always slept with his mother. Now, I am all for cosleeping during infancy and even up to maybe the age of 2 yrs old. I recently discovered that his mother was allowing him to continue cosleeping even though he has his own room and he sleeps on his own at my house since 18 months old. to tell you a little about his mother.... she is 38 yrs old and has not had a relationship and or sex for about 10 yrs. she has made Gabriel the center of her world and gives him whatever he wants...she can't stand to say no to him and or hear him cry. At her house Gabriel has every toy one child could ever want and they continue to roll in. we recently had the discussion about this cosleeping issue and she defended herself with all the research and studies that are out there that say it is ok what she is doing. Now, I did my research and found the same, BUT I could not find anything that talked about cosleeping AFTER 2 yrs. Does anyone out ther have any info regarding my question of when it stops? any thoughts? HelpJeff -- posted by jrstiglich » BeckySAHM - Re: when does cosleeping stop? In response to message posted by jrstiglich:Hi Jeff, My children slept with my husband and I past age 2 as well. My daughters started sleeping in their own bed at ages 6 and 7, and are content sleepers and very well adjusted children. I don't think you have to worry about this being related to his mother's sex life or lack thereof; my grandmother co-slept with her son until age 12 after his father died with no problems. A great book that would ease your concerns about co-sleeping past the age of two is The Family Bed by Tine Thevinin. (You can actually buy this book through a link on my Suite101 site, Instinctive Mothering.) It's packed with research along with families and cultures who practice this. I understand your concerns about the other things you mentioned, however. Too much toys and not saying no are separate, and valid, concerns, but probably nothing too major as far as childrearing goes. Sounds like Gabriel has two really loving, devoted parents. Hope this helps, -- posted by BeckySAHM » BeckySAHM - Re: Re: when does cosleeping stop? In response to message posted by BeckySAHM:P.S. Here's a link to an article I wrote on the subject: http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/inst... -- posted by BeckySAHM
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