I'm Turning Into My Mom

» CrabApple - Turning into Mum

April,
I guess it is sort of natural to find yourself becoming more like your Mum, after all she was your first and most important role model.

I have tried not to be like my Mum for reasons of my own, but I still find myself doing things like she did and saying things that she used to say.

I tried to be a different mother to the one that she was, but in moments of stress I would find myself becoming her. I learned to recognize this problem and overcame it to a certain extent.

My mother is very old now and lives in a nursing home. I visit her each week and most times someone will say" You must be mother and daughter, you are so alike". We cannot get away from our genes.

The worst part is that I know that when I get to her age I will probably be in a nursing home like her, and I am the next on the list.

No matter how hard I have tried to be different to my Mum I know that I am growing more like her each day and there is little that I can do about it.

My own daughters are quite different to me I think, an I hope they are, although recently one of them (one that prides herself on being different) said to me "It is frightening, I find myself saying things and doing things that you do"
"I think I am getting just like you " She was speaking in a friendly way and didn't mean anything nasty. On other occasions they both have said "We are strong women like you Mum" I take this as a complement, although I have never really considered myself to be particularly strong. I am glad my daughters see me this way. On another occasion one of them said I was her hero. That is something to live up too.

Crabapple.

-- posted by CrabApple

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» Bean - Re: Turning into Mum

yes being someone's hero is a lot to live up to . I consider my daughter one of my heros though and tell her so I encourage her to be stronger than i was but still keep her innocence. Of course I think it was my loss of innocence that made me a weaker girl.

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» SandyMcC - How familiar!

Great article, April!

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