Daughter-in-laws

» suckerpunched - SOMEBODY HELP ME

We have 2 sons. Our hearts are broken beyond belief. They have married one who wants nothing to do with us and another who wants only to use us.

I won't go into detail but what it all boils down to is: if you have sons and no daughters, you have to bury the sons as if they were dead when they marry.

We have tried everything, nothing works. My Mother died when I was 7 and my father deserted us so you can see how hard we tried to have a great family.

Something must have been wrong. It must have been! Our sons were given great educations and love beyond compare. My husband gets furious when I say, "there must have been something wrong". I can't help it, though. How could this happen?

I only wanted a family. We gave the sons a wonderful home, loving, laughter, honor and dignity and faith.

They both have been married for 10 to 12 years and in that time, every single flaw my husband and I have has been singled out to our sons from the DIL's.

Nothing we do is right. Nothing. When they forget our birthdays and we are sad because of it, the DIL's make it seem like we are trying to manipulate them.

If they forget Mother's Day or Father's Day, we are not supposed to care. If we say anything, the DIL's say we're putting guilt trips on them.

It is the heartbreak of my life. I need help because I feel like I could die.

I don't understand today's women. I don't understand why it is so wrong to want to hear from our sons and them without being made to appear begging.

I'm sorry I had children now. I don't ever want to love like that again. They were all we had in this world.

If you have any advice, please give it. I need help.

-- posted by suckerpunched

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» michelle7 - SOMEBODY HELP ME

In response to SOMEBODY HELP ME posted by suckerpunched:

I am so sorry for your pain. You must hold on to your faith and continue to hope for your sons to come to their senses. In the mean time move on with your lives and do good and meaningful things because life does not begin and end with our children. God expects us to work with what we have at the present and let Him worry with the rest. I am also dealing with the pain of a daughter in law who does not love me and I am not honored and do not get to adore my grandchild as I would wish. I do pray for my son's family however because I want them to be happy and I figure my chances of being loved by the D-in-law are better if all of them are blessed and doing well. Plus, I just want my son and my grandkid happy and they know I pray for them all the time. So, in the meantime I keep busy doing other things and having a life and yes I do worry and cry and get very sad. But, we cannot let this thing control us. We are powerful women and we have done good work. We must keep the faith. And we must always love. I'll be thinking about you. Stay strong. Michelle7

-- posted by michelle7

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