Can Two People With BP Actually Have a Decent Life Together

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I met a wonderful man who is BP (rapid cycle with extreme manic and depressive episodes). Over the last eight months I have come to love him dearly and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. We are very much alike in our temperaments and our life experiences which makes the good times fantastic, but the bad almost unbearable.

Because of a recenmeded discontinuation on my part (I was oeffexoror for depression) I am seeing more and more signs that I TOO may be BP (

However, recently I have learned that I too may be hypomanicanic and lessor degrees of depression)Cyclothymiaymia.

If this proves to be the case...is there ANY hope of us being able to have a life together (in the same house)???

Has anyone else experienced this???

I would love ANY input (positive or negative) aboTerihis.

Teri

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***I am sorry for posting this again...but for some reason my original post was all garbled***

I met a wonderful man who is BP (rapid cycle with extreme manic and depressive episodes). Over the last eight months I have come to love him dearly and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. We are very much alike in our temperaments and our life experiences which makes the good times fantastic, but the bad almost unbearable.

Because of a recent med discontinuation on my part (I was on effexoror for depression) I am seeing more and more signs that I TOO may be BP (hypomanic and lessor degrees of depression) or at least Cyclothymia.

If this proves to be the case...is there ANY hope of us being able to have a life together (in the same house)???

Has anyone else experienced this???

I would love ANY input (positive or negative) about this.

Teri

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» landscapeman - Re: Can Two People With BP Actually Have a Decent Life Together

In response to message posted by teasz5:

Hi Teri,

I lived with Donna approximately. 5 years before we married. Donna was diagnosed and had undergone treatment for a milder Bipolar Disorder than mine. Solving life's external problems was difficult for both of us. We left many problems unresolved. Donna and I very rarely had disagreements. When I was down, Donna was up and helped me. When Donna went down I was there to help her recover. That might be a gross simplification of the complex dynamic interactions that take place. Never the less, the 10 years that we were together as a couple, were the best of our lives. Below is a description of my life after Donna, that I copied from another Suite 101 reply. It has been and continues to be a struggle (mentally).

Three months after I married Donna, she passed away at the age of 29 after our year long battle against cancer ( Malignant Melanoma ). It was the best and the worst year of our life. The best because of our bond of love while we fought a increasingly more difficult struggle. The worst because of the inevitable outcome. Lance Armstrong ( 3 time Tour d France winner ) says that his battle with cancer was the greatest, most important victory that he has ever had. Unfortunately when you lose the battle it is not so rewarding.

I became increasingly more manic as the cancer progressed. There was much activity/stress surrounding our marriage, we took our honeymoon before hand because we didn't know when the end would come. Even after Donna died, ( Nov. 1, 00) my manic state of mind and actions ( including spending way out of scale for my part time landscape business ) continued until Christmas. Then I fell into a depression/grief episode that lasted until late spring. I then swung into a manic state, traveling across the U.S.spending over $100,000 on equipment, sleeping a few hours each night.

At my full time job with the park system, I became increasingly convinced that there was a conspiracy against me until I trusted no one I worked with. Of course, they found it quite strange that I kept showing up at work at 3 am., taking on new projects like a wild man. Writing emails to top Government Officials (quite convincingly I might add. ) explaining the persecution of me, by those that were aligned against me. After a investigation, no disciplinary action was taken. It is amazing to me that while I was manic, I was so convinced that everything that I was doing was completely rational and no one could convince me otherwise.

On Oct. 18, 02, I fell into the worst depression of my life, lasting 6 months. I was unable to work and just wanted to evaporate so the pain would die. I had not missed any extended periods of work for the previous 10 years. I am now recovering: ( with much help from family and friends) emotionally, financially and socially. It has been quite a up and down process so far and I have a long way to go.

I noticed your note about the garbled text of your first post. I had the same problem when I first posted. I don't know the cause, but it seems to be related to the spell checker.Sense I am not a great speller. I copy the post into my email program, spell check and edit it. I then respond and copy back to reply. Then I also have a copy for further reference.

I do think there is hope for your life together.

Keep me posted.

Peace,

Charlie

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