Dealing w/ bi polar partners

» magiccc69 - bi polar partners

I have recently been dating a great guy who I recently found out was diagnosed bi polar since childhood. I thought he was just moody. Being diagnosed clinically depressed myself, I understood ( but after researching & reading I do not know what I am ) Anyway, his mood swings are big, from I want this to work.... to the distance is too big & I never want to do this... within hours. We live 1 hr apart but his rampant binges have caused him to lose his drivers license for a long period of time. I live in the city & do not need a car. Being a single mom I have been through a lot & have my own issues. I too get crazily motivated & take on the worlds for days w/out sleep & then sleep for days only not to follow up on the positive efforts of my binge. Thank heaven for my daughter which gets me up every day & functioning on those bad days. I do it myself, but it is for her. Being with him I feel myself as the more stable person, taking care of his screw ups & talking him through stuff. Although it keeps me going & makes me understand myself more & what my people put up with, I still am struggling w/ this situation as a + or a -. I have enough to deal w/ myself but I can relate to people who helped me unbelievably now. He understands my withdrawal at times & I his. But sometimes it creates a crash when I am totally up & he is not. We easily blow off @ other erratic comments but is it all healthy. I have always made choices upon a whim, another issue, but this time I want to attempt to think things out. Maybe, since he his worse off than I am I feel better about myself which is obviously unhealthy. Love some comments.

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» Amy_Amy - Re: bi polar partners

In response to message posted by magiccc69:

Hi, this is Amy, the author of this page. I am bipolar I, rapid cycling. I can explain more about that sometime.

I think if you can handle the ebb and flow of a relationship with your bipolar love, it may be one of the most rewarding relationships of your life. Parts of bipolar (like the days of creative energy and productivity, and the tendency to be more compassionate and loving perhaps than others, when you're not in a rage) are a gift.

At least I try to see it that way.

As I see your relationship, there seems to be more good than bad in it at this point. If you yourself do not feel unhealthy or do not feel yourself becoming less than you are or could be with him then maybe this love is good.

If you find your self-esteem does come from knowing that "at least you're not" as severely impaired by your depressive disorder as he is then that probably is unhealthy.

Feel free to email me anytime at amyhpete@yahoo.com

-- posted by Amy_Amy

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