Need some opinions do i need to be apart
- PeterDD
- AJC
- PeterDD
- tangybr
- slimdurty
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» PeterDD - How can i live like this?
Howdy folks would appreciate some input into my predicament. I met a local girl about four months ago we fell in love and she means the world to me I have met a lot of girls before but she has blown me away this is it for me. Anyway when we first met she told me she was off to the UK in four months and was not sure if she would be back. Understandably I was hesitant about it becoming serious but we both could not stop what happened we both agree we were made for each other. So I decided I would head for the UK to be with her but I needed 6 months to get my job cleaned up so I would not leave anybody in the lurch. She has been gone two weeks and the pain is unbearable I cannot eat sleep work function. She is in the same boat we speak on the phone almost every night email each other but it does not help I am a normal guy hardly ever shed a tear but when I talk to her I fall to bits. She wants to come home to be with me for the 6 months and go back together but she is torn as she has gone over with a friend and does not want to leave her in the lurch. She is getting sick all the time cries on the phone is really suffering.Question is should I be pushing her to come back or just leave it will it get easier. What should I be doing I feel I need to do something am struggling to live like this.
I would appreciate any input.
-- posted by PeterDD
» AJC - Re: How can i live like this?
In response to message posted by PeterDD:Hey
I know exactly what your GF is going through and maybe even you. My BF came to New Zealand for a 6 month exchange at the university I am attending, we lived at the same hall of residence. I knew him a little bit and had an atttraction to him but about 3 months into his 6 month stay we hooked up. I didnt want to let myself get attached to him because I knew he was going back to the USA in less than 3 months. Love is something that you cannot have control of. It was a sad day when he left for the USA but he promised to email and call all the time, which he did. We were apart for just over 3 months when he decided to come and visit me back here in NZ. He came for 1 month, it was awesome. It is now my turn to go to the USA to see him, im off there in 2 weeks.
The whole 'i miss you, i need you' thing is strong when you first leave your love but it does get easier because after a little while, as long as you keep up the regular talks and emails. I went through exactly what your GF is going through, just feeling sick, not eating etc. . . its because you have realised that part of you has gone and you dont feel complete.
Do not make her go back to you, then leave again in 6 months, shes (and you too) still in the I NEED YOU now stage, she has things she has to figure out regarding her life and so do you. A long distance relationship makes a relationship stronger and you as a person also grows stronger. If you have anything you want to discuss or chat about feel free to contact me
Take Care
-- posted by AJC
» PeterDD - Re: Re: How can i live like this?
AJC Thankyou your advice was spot on the intitail i guess shock worry etc is a terrible feeling and i am still going through it but it is getting a bit easier.I am going to join her in 4 months so i hope this story will have a happy ending. I guess this is going to be very hard but she and i know we are the "one" for each other so we would wait a lifetime four months is not too long but at times seems an eternity.
Thankyou for your comment.
-- posted by PeterDD
» tangybr - online dating dilemma
I've been talking to this girl on-line for a bout a year now. We exchanged pics, talked on the phone occasionally, and things have been going smoothly, up until now. We started having small petty arguments over nothing,and we seldom agreed to anything anymore. I soon realized that she didn't find my goofiness appealing, and longed for more stimulating conversations. I normally wouldn't discuss certain topics like (world events, history, science,) but I find myself doing so because that what she's interested in. I think she realized that we're too different for each other, and that's why she wanted to break up with me.After the break up , which has been a a week now. She tells me that she wants to temporarily my friend. That way she can have time to sort her feelings. How long should I wait for her to come back to me? I love her, but don'tnt see myself waiting too long. I need advice....
-- posted by tangybr
» slimdurty - I'm Confused
I met my girlfriend over the Internet. We really connected it was about a month before we actually met (that because she goes to a school 300 miles away). Anyway.we had a wonderful summer I would say about 3 months. Then she leaves for school again. Ok. I'm content with the distance at first, but then its like all these little nagging things such all her male friends call around the same time I call. I have no problem with her friends is more less a respect thing for me.If you are in a relationship, your friends should know not to call after a certain time, am I wrong. Also I feel like the hasn't open up to me like I've done her. I have not problem saying how I feel or whats on my mind. I also feel that she is not ready for a long-distance relationship, even at 20yrs olds she's very mature for age and I'm 25yrs old. Am I putting to much pressure on her or am I just taking this relationship too too serious. Someone please help!!!-- posted by slimdurty
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