Going The Distance

Top 10. Jul 11, 2002 8:07 AM

» coopkid - Long Distance is hard for sure....

I feel everybody's pain when it comes to the long distance relationship. I'm dating a lovely woman (we'll call her 'Jenny') who lived near me for several months before she moved to Oregon. I guess the hardest part for me is not being able to talk to her anymore. She didnt leave me a forwarding address or phone number. She even changed her email address. I get the feeling that she needs a little bit of space, and I'm sort of willing to give it to her, but you would think 3000 miles would be enough...

Coop

-- posted by coopkid

Top 11. Jul 11, 2002 12:57 PM

» scardycat - Unanswered questions leave me afraid

Hi, I am a new member to this site as well as to the prospect of long distance relationships. I am writing because in less than a month my college boyfriend of 7+ months(who is one year ahead of me and just graduated)will be moving home over 1100 miles away. We have decided that we do want to stay together and plan on communicating daily via e-mail as well as by phone as much as we can afford it. I am asking for any advice anyone has on how to make this succesful. I love him with all my heart and desperately want this to work. Please help!!

-- posted by scardycat

Top 12. Jul 15, 2002 3:36 PM

» Macuv - Re: Unanswered questions leave me afraid

In response to message posted by scardycat:

Hey ~ Well I just wanted to let you know that it can work. My boyfriend just moved home - to Germany. He and I were together for 4 months and love each other very much. It is incredibly hard to make a trans-atlantic relationship work just because of how expensive it can be. Visiting isn't just getting in a car for a few days it's dropping $600+ on a plane ticket. Not to mention phone calls (which are really hard with a 7 hour time difference) and e-mails but it's worth it. You just have to keep the communication working and not get jealous when the other is out doing something without you. I know that this sounds so easy and I know that it isn't but if you're love is strong than you'll make it!!

-- posted by Macuv

Top 13. Oct 14, 2002 6:22 PM

» faraway - Should I give up?

I've been a long distance relationship for 1 year. I've gone to visit him, however he won't come visit me. Each time I try to discuss it, he laughs and changes the subject. Shouldn't I give up? I send cards, emails, and gifts to him, he sends me nothing. I think it's time for me to give up. But I do care. However, I can't continue to care for someone who won't contribute to the relationship. He's asked me to move to his state. How can he ask me that when he won't even come visit me where I live? I want a partner who contributes not only takes. What do you think?

-- posted by faraway

Top 14. Nov 15, 2002 1:17 PM

» Gemini86 - Re: Should I give up?

Yes, this man is not giving you the love and respect you deserve as his partner. His neediness and inability to give you the attention you deserve are signs of his own immaturity. Go look for a real man. So you can have a relationship in which both partners are equal. Don't waste anymore of your time honey. There are plenty of wonderful eligible men out there, all you have to do now is go find one!

-- posted by Gemini86

Top 15. Mar 7, 2003 7:35 AM

» Clairabelle_17 - Re: Unanswered questions leave me afraid

I am also a new member of this site. In June 2002 (nearly a year ago now) My boyfrined of 4 months left the UK (where I live) to return to Canada BC having lived here for 5 years with his family. I am going to be 18 this year whilst he will be 19. Although we are both very young (we met in sixth Form College, which will be the last couple of years of high school for u americans!) we want to be together. Whilst he was here we had an amazingly loving and trusting relationship, which we know will last. Just make sure u can trust eachother and talk as much as u can. It is difficult, we've been away for 10 moths now, but he is coming to stay with me for 2 months this summer, an i cant wait to see him! Dont worry if people think ur foolish, follow ur heart!

-- posted by Clairabelle_17

Top 16. Apr 12, 2003 1:12 PM

» klockswife - Long distance relationship take work.

Long distance relationship take work. My beloved and I had a long distance relationship for 9 years before I moved to be with him. This was before e-mail and he did not like to write. He kept in touch by telephone and every other month one would visit the other. I had other male companions at the time and he females.

I you don't have trust it won't work. A person can change and it does happen without warning. All the pining is great drama but you must have other interest and friends to tide you over.

We have a 22 year old kid and have grown "middle aged" together. We never married! Commitment is a term used too loosely. A piece of paper can't make a person stay with ya!

Being together or apart really is about having a positive self image and being open to the possibility that this person may not be the one you'll end up with. Enjoy what you have and hope it grows.

-- posted by klockswife

Top 17. Apr 14, 2003 6:10 PM

» ch3195 - my boyfriend is leaving

i just got pack with a guy that i love very much. the problem is i am a sophomore and he is a senior and he will be moving to wyoming from texas in 2 months. we want to continue the relationship b/c he only has to go to school for 15 months. can it work? i think so but i need to know

-- posted by ch3195

Top 18. Apr 19, 2003 10:35 AM

» Vcs - Re: my boyfriend is leaving

In response to message posted by ch3195:

i too am in a long distance relationship. we havent been seeing each other for almost 3 years now, but eventually and hopefully we will this year. if you truly love each other, trust one another and do all means to communicate(e-mail, telephone,letters), and it can work. it's up to you two.in love, nothing is impossible.though its hard at first, you have to try to work it out.this is one test to show and prove how much you really love one another no matter how far you are from him. good luck!

-- posted by Vcs