Friendship Hardships

» ahunter - Staying Friends

Yes, true friends do exist and are worth fighting for. In fact, often the closest friends are the ones whom at some point we've struggled to keep. It's in the struggle, we learn how much we value them. Good article!

-- posted by ahunter

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» legally_blonde - I need some advice!

I was best friends with this girl for 4 and a half years. In the summer things started not going well between the two of us and we fought a lot about stupid things. Than in October it ended. At first I was glad that it ended. I felt as though I could get my own identity back. We did everything together. Now it's been 2 months and she hasn't tried to fix things and neither have I. I've been thinking of trying to fix things but when we fought in the past I would always be the first one to fix things. So this time I wanted her to be the first one. So I was thinking of writing a letter to her telling her my side of the story and how much it hurt me. Than if she wants to fix things she can and if not than I will know that at least i tried. What do you think? Can you send me an e-mail with your thoughts at legally_blonde6982@hotmail.com. Thanks
Aimee

-- posted by legally_blonde

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» krissyp - Re: I need some advice!

In response to message posted by legally_blonde:

Hi Aimee,

Why did your friendship end? Recently, one of mine has, so I understand exactly what you're talking about. I guess, ask yourself, how much do I value this person in my life? Do they help me grow? Sometimes, it's okay to get rid of friends who have done us wrong, I think. It paves the way for more nurturing relationships.

-- posted by krissyp

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» Georgene A. Bramlage - Friendships

In response to message posted by krissyp:
Friendships are definitely worth fighting for! My now grown children often ask me why I remain friends with people with whom I sometimes have difficulties and complain about in the sanctity of my own home. Some reasons: longevity, common interests, and sometimes plain old biological attractions. A good friendship can surmount difficulties if and when both parties are able to figuratively "kiss and makeup." In the long haul, a friendship should help us become personally better and enhanced individuals. Two examples from my life which might help Aimee. One friendship based on all three above factors has drifted apart, again. Usually, I am the one who reaches out. After checking if the person involved is in some sort of trouble (she is not), I've decided to just let things drift, The second example deals with a hard relationship, on and off again for over three decades, with me doing more than my share of reaching out and keeping things going with this old roommate. Since the death of a mutual friend in November, my former roommate has taken to telephoning, e-mailing, and setting up small social events. I am a little awed that she has taken initiative. it will never be a "huggy" friendship, but I have others for that! And we have another bond, each of of our grandchildren was born on the same day within hours of each other in January. Apparently, it is enough that we two women are there for each other.

-- posted by Georgene A. Bramlage

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» krissyp - Re: Friendships

In response to message posted by Cercis:

Georgene,

I really appreciate adding your insight to the page. You are surely a good friend!

Kristen

-- posted by krissyp

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» cateyes0223 - Renewing an old friendship

My friend Katy and I were really great friends in elementary school until she went to a different school for grades 7 and 8. We still talked and saw each other on weekends and knew that we were going to the same highschool. However, at high school, I quickly saw that she was in with a different crowd than I am. She is in the popular crowd and I'm not. We hung out for the beginning of grade nine and eventually we just stopped talking. We see each other in the halls sometime and we say hi but thats about it. I really miss being her friend and I wanted to restore our friendship. I was wondering how I could go about doing this. She is not in any of the same classes as me if it matters. Please reply, Thanx!

-- posted by cateyes0223

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» krissyp - Re: Renewing an old friendship

In response to message posted by cateyes0223:

sorry i didn't reply earlier! my personal advice to say hi and maybe pull her aside or call her on the phone and ask her to hang out. don't get too into the "failed relationship" if you don't have to. but if there has been hurt, not just growing apart, then i would

-- posted by krissyp

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» Shan22 - Im soo confused

ok guys so I need a little help here. My best friend and I are what seems to be really close. We have been through so much, more than anyone could imagine. We usually spend almost everyday together with the occasional few days of doin our own things but on those days she acts sometimes she doesnt know me. And i guess i usually jump down her bak about it and she often complains that i worry to much and i act like her mom. Im also not sure if she tells me when shes mad.....what the heck should i do.

-- posted by Shan22

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» krissyp - Re: Im soo confused

In response to message posted by Shan22:

tell her, honestly, how you feel. don't attack her, just mention how you feel. very important to use "i feel...."

what do the rest of you think?

kristen

-- posted by krissyp

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