Communicating Without Body Language
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» Car - ;)
I like to use the ;) or the :P myself. But I still find times when folks don't get it or get that I mean it jokingly.The other hard part that I find myself falling into a lot is I try to be so damn neutral that the note sounds almost mechanical. I really hate sounding mechanical with folks I consider friends or what to consider as friends.
-- posted by Car
» Renie_Burghardt - Hi, Caroline,
interesting article. I usually add little things like"Hehehe" when I'm jesting, or a "grin" or "smile" or even "sigh."One time, I got an email from this guy who went on to tell me how much he enjoyed my topic, and that he would love to visit and meet me. He ended his email with, "how do you feel about motorcycles?" I emailed him back and said, "I feel fine about motorcycles. How do you feel about Rottweilers?"
I didn't hear anymore from him! One sometimes has to be creative on-line! (But I really do have a Rottweiler.)
I've enjoyed visiting your topic, and will be back!
-- posted by Renie_Burghardt
» Car - Rottweiler
Does that really work? I guess it doesn't sound viscious enough if I say I love cats eh?Seriously though, I know a lot of people that love Rottweilers. They scare me... but most pets scare me (and they can smell it!)
Hm... of course, if i contact the pet via the internet, they can't smell me... at least not yet! I read somewhere they are working on technology to have "Scratch'n Sniff" webpages. That's scary.
-- posted by Car
» Gwrites - Falling into the trap...
I, too, sometimes find myself falling into the trap of not going back and reading what I've written before I hit the "send" or "post" button, and it can get me into trouble! Sometimes I write things that sound perfectly good in my head (and I hear them in my head with exactly the right inflection), but then I go back and read them with a more objective eye and notice that things I have written either don't sound right or might be read a couple of different ways.I try to ensure that I pick words out that are very precise so that I don't end up offending or irritating anyone. That is, of course, unless that's what I want to do, and that's sometimes the case!
Interesting article, Caroline!
-- posted by Gwrites
» amelie_1 - Hi Caroline,
Hi Caroline,What an interesting article! I agree with Eugenia's comment. English is my second language and even though I have to write daily in English, my grammar and my wording remains phoney and sometimes awkward. As in visual conversation my accent is unnoticeable, it is much more difficult for me to "look" processional, considerate and friendly on e-mails. I like to think that one day, multiculturalism will lead us to have "accent" or even "state of mind while writing" check boxes on the e-mail messaging system. This way, my French accent or my "so tired at the end of the day" state of mind, that one could hear on a phone conversation, would be taken into consideration.
Good work Caroline,
Amelie
-- posted by amelie_1
» biogardener - Happy misunderstanding!
This is a true story of how a misunderstanding lead to friendship. It happened to me.A lady misunderstood the intent of one of my forum postings and sent me a an irate email. She also told me never to email her again. I figured that a strong reaction like that must be the sign of a very unhappy person. I ignored her request never to email her again. I apologized for having upset her and offered to let her cry on my shoulder if she ever wanted to blow off steam. Not quite in those words, of course. She did just that, and we have been friends for years now. Having someone to confide in has helped her to cope with some serious situations which she could not change. I used to think that her marriage was bound to break up, but it is now a happy one. And all because of a misunderstanding on the internet!
-- posted by biogardener
» biogardener - rereading
I just reread your article and thought of my possible body language when telling someone to get out. Since I am rather a small person, for a German at least, I subconsciously tend to place my hands on my hips to make myself bigger. It works really well when dealing with teenagers, especially gangs. I have never been attacked when dealing with toughies, because they are probably too shocked that a little squirt like me dares to defy someone of whom everyone else is scared. My husband thinks it is because I am "too small for a target."That reminds me of a recorded telephone conversation between two cyber-lovers which I have listened to recently. They had both been lying to each other for years, and in this conversation, they discuss how they can always tell when someone is telling a lie, even on the telephone. She tells him that, of course, the two of them don't have to worry about that, because they know each other so well and because they never lie to each other.
If it weren't such a tragic situation, that conversation would be quite hilarious.
-- posted by biogardener
» friendsline - I agree
some times when i chat to somebody on the net, misunderstanding always happened that make me feel bad and have to start a new topic-- posted by friendsline
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