"Let's meet!?!"
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- KellyMaureen
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- LindaC_02
- lizbethb
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» KellyMaureen - Meeting Someone Online
Great article Caroline.I met someone in person that I met online. She was another writer with children and we met at Coco's. Her husband worried about this meeting, as did mine. I tried to tell him that I've met plenty of people face to face the first time who turn out to be less than friendly.
However, my instinct told me that she would be okay and she was. She wrote back and told me she was glad I was normal (I have to laugh at this, sometimes I don't think I'm normal).
I would never meet someone in a place where I am vulnerable, but I figured a public restaurant with two kids in tow was safe.
-- posted by KellyMaureen
» Car - Re: Meeting someone online
*lol* I know exactly what your friend meant by being thankful you were "normal". The media hypes it up a lot, but I think you still do have to be careful. And I continue to make the analogy that it's really not that different from picking up someone at a bar. Well... except you can't see the person's face. And pictures never seem to do a person justice.-- posted by Car
» Shra - After a year...
In about 6/7 weeks i'm going to meet the bloke I've been talking to for about a year. In fact he's flying from one side of australia to the other to see me. And I'm over the moon about it.I've meet other people, after a short time, and i'm pretty careful about where I meet them, and personal safety.
But after like hours of talking to this guy on the phone and stuff i'm not even a smidge concerned. Hell i even have his credit card number... lucky i'm not a big criminal, i'd have taken the lot and run *grins*.
I can't wait to see him in person... it's not meeting him though anymore, the way i see it i've already met him.
-- posted by Shra
» Shra - 40 something days to go
I'll absolutely let you know. I'm usually a big fan of caution too, but I figure this is Western Australia, if anything happens I know my way around well enough to get the hell oughtta there.I'm more worried about breaking out just as the plane lands *grins* - it allllways happens when there's something important on; stress + hormones is a bad combination.
Anyways back to the uni work - I'm procrastinating...
eloise-
-- posted by Shra
» LindaC_02 - Met my hubby online!
Hi Shra!I know exactly how you feel. Several years ago I met a great guy online and after 9 months of getting to know each other *really* well I flew to England (I'm from Canada) to meet him. It went wonderfully! I stayed there with him for nearly a year then we were soon married. My hubby moved here to Canada with me and things are going great. We've been married for a little over 2 years now and will soon be moving into our new house. I was counting down the days until actually being with him as well!
Go to my profile page here:http://www.suite101.com/profile.cfm/Lind...
to see a picture of us if you'd like.
Good luck!
-- posted by LindaC_02
» lizbethb - My thoughts
Meeting someone online is just like meeting someone in real life - at first you see what they want you to see, but with time it's hard to fake it. On some levels you can get to know each other intimately online - you are forced to converse instead of, say, being glued to a movie screen for 2 hours. On some levels you can't substitute 2 dimensions for physical chemistry. Photos can be good or bad but mannerisms, body language, even scents play a role in attraction too. If you are lucky it can work, just like people do marry people they meet on a blind date, through a dating service, or pre-internet as a pen pal.But when the first meeting is over and the earth moves, if it does - then what? You most likely will still be 1000 miles apart - if not 10,000, and that is a big obstacle with having a long-term relationship. Which leads to the conundrum that unless you move closer together and date in the traditional way, you are either taking a crap shoot by getting married or a crap shoot that you will move and you will find that minus the extra thrills of long absences and bi-monthly "vacations" together, the relationship loses something??? Or it may be the match made in cyber-heaven, as I count several now-happily-married couples who began as long-distance-relationships online.
Cheers,
Liz
-- posted by lizbethb
» biogardener - My first cyber-friend meeting
I don't remember how I had gotten on Sally Naumko's mailing list, but she sent an email from Belgrade to me, and I wrote an article on the topic. I also emailed her about it and soon we found out that we both lived in Winnipeg. We met at a non-denominational prayer meeting for the war in the Balcans, but we have emailed, telephoned, and met in stores many times since.In another instance, a woman asked me by email how to find a drumming circle, and after a few emails, we found out that we only live a few minutes from each other. We met at the next drumming circle to which I invited her. She actually picked me up and we went there together.
When it comes to cyber-sex relationships, though, I have no experience nor will I ever have, but the person whom I know who has had them, reports nothing but negative real life meetings, and that is not surprising seeing that the relationships are all based on intentionally misleading advertising. The reality therefore could never measure up to the fantasy image.
-- posted by biogardener
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