Is Homosexuality a Choice?: Is homosexuality a choice?

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Interesting article, Kimberly. Thanks. I suppose I could be termed "newly gay" although I did not so much make a choice. Married for some 27yrs. and suddenly hearing oneself state to an enquiring friend, "I have no interest in another relationship but I can tell you one thing...if I were it would not be with a man". This had never crossed my mind, not anything I had ever considered in my life, previously. Not only did it shock my friend but having uttered those words I was left speechless. For the next two years or so I spent a great deal of time trying to figure out where this had begun and all the while, an increasing awareness of how just "knowing" changed my personna. I felt I had finally come home to me, I was totally comfortable with myself, inside this skin, for the first time in my life. And just having this new found self-assurance and confidence was enough. I did not seek a relationship, didn't even consider being in one...enough to know that the missing parts of my life's puzzle had been uncovered and were now in place. I have no regrets about my "other life" whatsoever. I believe I had to live all of it to get to where I am today and am grateful for the lessons learned along the way. Some five years after I had uttered those words I found myself in a new relationship with a very wonderful woman...my first, and hopefully for the rest of my life. We have been together for four years, share a home, business, every facet of our lives. Initially, I had grave doubts about her acceptance of me as I now was revealed and coming from where I did. Her awareness and surety of self had been lifelong for her so my concerns were as you stated in your article. It was my good fortune that she is a highly evolved soul and also shares my beliefs. Now I find I am one of hundreds, probably thousands, who have been where I was and somehow found their true selves and in talking with many I know, personally, this is not an easy road to travel either. It's just as difficult telling family and friends, many who have "known" you for more than 20yrs, if not all of your life. However, being the age I am now perhaps makes it easier to be "out". I feel I was in a self-imposed closet for almost 35yrs. and will now allow nothing..and no-one, to cause me to creep back in. I'll look forward to more of your articles and links!

-- posted by ooragg