Need help keeping a friendship

» rovergirl15 - Hey guys,

Hey guys,
There is this guy in my grade, we dated twice this year I broke up with him. The first time he was telling his friends we weren't dating anymore and so I made his dream a reality. Then he asked me out again, and then we dated and I just didn't feel anything between us anymore. So I broke up with him and explained to him why. I don't want anyone to think I am completely horrible, but things are kind of weird and I need to know how to keep things okay between us. Especially because he has the locker right beside me and he will until we graduate high school unless something happens. I am only in 9th grade so I don't want the next 4 years to be total hatred between us. We used to be great friends and I still want to stay friends now.

-- posted by rovergirl15

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» Darksky2 - Re: Hey guys,

Well this is just a suggestion. I don't intend to try and just change your situation. Only you can decide what to do.

When I dated my ex. I felt like that all the time.
She did too. We both appreciated each others
honesty cause We didn't want to force another into a relationship. With that said I suggest you just be yourself. If anyone thinks something
mean about you, you can't change them. Just like
no one can make you care for something you don't
chose to care for. I know it hurts when someone thinks something like that. Still only you can decide what you think about yourself. Their letting you know how they feel, but you don't have
to take it to be the truth. Also you need to learn to set up boundaries around your feelings,
so things like this don't automatically hurt you.
If you learn to set up boundaries, the next four
years will be fine even if he decides to hate you.
Also you can't love someone unless you chose to
love them. And you can't love something about someone if that doesn't reflect something you love
about yourself. If your willing to be his friend
and work things out then just tell him (yea I now
that can be really hard). See if he
wants to be yours. Also sometimes working things
out is so hard for people, that they rather not
try to fix things. Its not your fault, people just
don't have the energy. Probably because he thinks
he's no good, since you didn't like him. He might
be angry to keep you away, so he doesn't get hurt
again. See he'll probably never hate you, its just his way of protecting himself. And you were
taking it like you were a horrible person. Also
others probably think you caused him to think he
was no good. Thats why their mad at you. But thats
not your fault. He's the one who decided to put
his heart on the line like that, This is just
what could easily happen. Its no ones fault.

Hahaha you seem to feel terrible when someone thinks your no good to. See your hearts on the line too. This can help you understand how he
might feel, and how things get like this.

-- posted by Darksky2

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» rovergirl15 - Re: Re: Hey guys,

In response to Re: Hey guys, posted by Darksky2:

Hey thanks for the advice, I'll try it.

-- posted by rovergirl15

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» soccer383 - Hey I need help

Ok I have switche schools 6 times an well the school I am at I just made a frien in the being of the year she is cool but one thing.She has treated me wrong because she has gotten closer to my sister and lied to me then on Christmas she left a message but didn't say Merry Christmas and New Years she went with a friend that she talks bad about with out telling me or wishing me a Happy New Year.But wait because I was having a new years party I need help because I wil see her tomorrow and were in the same class!Thanks

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