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What About Sex?Read the article this discussion is about
This archived discussion is "read only". « Previous 1 2 Next » » Jausten - Thanks Dan. Maybe I should sell this article to someone who i Thanks Dan.Maybe I should sell this article to someone who is currently writing a book about fibromyalgia. That is after it is off my topic page. Hummmmmm...wonder how much money I could make?...... Jausten -- posted by Jausten » Dan_Ellsworth - Are you retaining movie rights? ;-) Me go quietly now. <i> Are you retaining movie rights? ;-)Me go quietly now. Dan Ellsworth (e-mail, bio), Editor, "Christianity - Protestant" -- posted by Dan_Ellsworth » Jausten - Dan..... *LOL.............of course...and I'll also go quietl Dan.....*LOL.............of course...and I'll also go quietly now...... Jausten -- posted by Jausten » JoyY - Joy Yourcenar With the brashness of a new person, I will jump Joy YourcenarWith the brashness of a new person, I will jump in. I do find that making love eases joint pain, helps me sleep and improves my mood. Why shouldn't a person with fibromyalgia get some of the same benefits as the general population? =)
-- posted by JoyY » Othello - Well folks, I'm certainly no expert in this topic of sex. Howev Well folks, I'm certainly no expert in this topic of sex. However I do have a couple of comments I'd like to toss up for grabs.Pain and fatigue, etc. may make the actually act of sex more difficult, however, don't forget. Each one of us has our own sexuality. And each one of us is very sensual. So.......what about sex? Maybe it's time to get creative? How about trying new positions that are more comfortable for you and your partner? (I haven't got a partner so I'll nix this one). Three years ago I went to a chronic pain clinic that gave us a booklet showing various positions for people in chronic pain. It was a very good booklet. How willing are you and your partner to compromise on new things that may work for both of you? I've read these responses, and so far not many truly respond as I thought they would to Cynthia's article. Sex is not a easy topic to discuss.....embarrassing for some. Can you talk with your mate about it? How willing is he/she to try new things that work for both of you? If you don't know what works, are you both willing to try new things? Does sex means doing "it" or does it mean incorporating a lot of intimate touching? Since I don't know to what extent everyone has tried things, I'll leave this for those to ponder who haven't. -- posted by Othello » Jausten - Thank's Joy and Wanda. At least you two weren't chicken..*g.. Thank's Joy and Wanda.At least you two weren't chicken..*g...Both of you made good comments and suggestions, and knowing just how difficult it was for me to write this article, I know that it was even more difficult for people to respond to it. Thank you very much. Jausten -- posted by Jausten » ThorsteinnT - Thorsteinn Thorsteinsson Thanks Cynthia and all of you who resp Thorsteinn ThorsteinssonThanks Cynthia and all of you who responded to the article. A few years ago I was in so much pain that sex was nearly unbearable for me. I remember nights when I would lie in bed with my whife and the only thing I could do was laugh because the pain in my back and shoulders was to much. It was a blessing at the time to be able to laugh because it was an outlet for the pain and my feelings, but believe you me laughter was not on my mind. Coping with FMS is a constant battle one day at a time an I thank God that I was alreydy in touch with a 12 step program before a was diagnosed. God bless you all. -- posted by ThorsteinnT » JacquelynK - Jacquelyn Keller I finally got time to do some catching up on Jacquelyn KellerI finally got time to do some catching up on my reading, so my response is late. But even so, I wanted to respond because this is an important subject that I usually don't see discussed in articles about fibromyalgia. I have noticed a decreased libido since changing medication (I am now on Paxil) and going through perimenopause, and possibly the complications of fibroid tumors (I will find out for sure about that after more tests next month), which has caused our sex life to diminish quite a bit. Thank God I have a wonderful, inventive, understanding husband who is not demanding, is willing to try and suggest different positions, etc. Yet I still have a poor self image, (I'm now at 263 pounds and feel like a whale). My husband always assures me he thinks I am beautiful. I know it is my own problem and something I need to work on, but the feelings are there, and he has to "deal" with them as well. It's not easy for the partner of someone with fibromyalgia. Partners like my husband are truly special people and those of us with them are truly blessed! Thank you for an insightful, thought-provoking article! Jacque -- posted by JacquelynK » Judy151 - Re: Thorsteinn ThorsteinssonThanks Cynthia and all of you who re In response to message posted by ThorsteinnT:I have had fibro. for approx.3 yrs. I found the best thing to do is Stay Away From CANDY,especially chocolate, and caffine. Stretch as much as possible and walk everyday . The more you stay active the better you will feel -- posted by Judy151 » Skull13 - Re: Re: Thorsteinn ThorsteinssonThanks Cynthia and all of you wh In response to message posted by Judy151:Judy...walking yes! Stretching...yes! Giving up Chocolate now that Splenda and the like are available...NEVER! Giving up caffeine as in my morning coffee...kill me first! -- posted by Skull13 « Previous 1 2 Next » Please follow the guidelines set forth in the Suite101 Posting Etiquette when adding to the discussion. |
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