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relationships with bipolar persons
This archived discussion is "read only". « Previous 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 Next » » mimelio - My husband is bipolar. Mood stabolizer like Depakote, Lithium, Seroquel or even AbilifyIn response to My husband is bipolar. posted by savannaholivia: -- posted by mimelio » blue516 - Too much to deal with... I am new to this message board and found this after searching many BiPolar sites. My husband has been diagnoised with BP recently and I am finding that everything that has happened in the last 5 years since we met and married has been too much for me to deal with. When we were first married, he was on meds for ADHD and anti depressants. Then about a year later the VA doctors put him on ONLY the Anti-depressants because he had confessed to being abusive and he was having big problems with depression. For the next two years he drank heavily took anti depressants and worked very little. We almost ended our marriage several times. Finally by the end of Dec. 2005 he decided he needed to quit drinking - by this time he had been physically, mentally, verbally and emotionally abused to me. It was so bad that I left home every weekend to be away from him. Finally I was going to file for divorce in Jan. of 2006 but he convinced me to wait while he went through the VA alcoholic program. He hasn't drank since then but sleeps every chance he can get and is still very much controlling and sometimes verbally abusive, but at least the physical abuse stopped.Next week he will start his medication for the BP. I am worn out- tired and just don't see any future for us. He has said & done things that I can't get out of my mind. We don't sleep in the same room anymore and we barely speak without it becoming a battle. He says I "Just don't understand" He says I need to be more compassionate and realize that he is sick. When he is mean or controlling he blames the disease.. WHen he sleeps the whole weekend away he blames the depression... I feel very trapped and angry and I honestly don't think I can deal with this anymore. I have been quite frank and told him that I want a divorce, that he has put too much on my plate. When I've told him this he intimates that I'm a terrible person for even having these feelings! AM I a terrible person?? I use to love this man very deeply but I just can't get those feelings back anymore - now I'm only angry and hurt. ANY AVICE FOR ME? Thanks for reading this long post. -- posted by blue516 » Daninperth - totally confused In response to totally confused posted by lynni31:Hi, i'm in the same boat, sort of. After a year of being pursued by a school mate who claimed her love for me, i finally found myself in love with her. It seems that within a month of starting to return her feelings, she dumped me without much of an explanation at all. I am a mess since then, and all i can do is try to research bipolar disorder (as she said she has it) and make sense of it all. Perhaps it was me but, wow, i've never had anything like this happen before -- posted by Daninperth » razzledazzle47 - totally confused In response to totally confused posted by lindseyrae71:i sent an email in response to this but im new to this forum and don't know exactly how this works or if you got it, soooo here's a copy of what i wrote.
-- posted by razzledazzle47 » lindseyrae71 - totally confused In response to totally confused posted by razzledazzle47:I would be happy to forward them to you...they need to be sent to your personal email address in an attachment. -- posted by lindseyrae71 » cherishedprinces - totally confused In response to totally confused posted by lindseyrae71:I read your response, and I would like you to fwd those articles to me as well. I have been dating a bipolar, and we are having problems again. I am having a difficult time dealing with this time around (this is the second time around in less than 2 months). He has shut me out completely and broke up with me telling me he no longer wanted a relationship (after telling me he loved me the same morning). I think my biggest problem is dealing with the unknown--is this simply a cycle of the bipolar (which I feel it is--he did the same thing before, and everything is almost identical, including his moods leading into this episode) or he is serious this time, does he really not want to be with me? I love him, and I want so badly to ride this out, but it's difficult when he simply do not know. Any advice any one can lend me would be greatly appreciated. -- posted by cherishedprinces » ohsoconfuzed - 1 month later.... I was on a month ago wondering about my ex and wanting to touch base with him. it's been 2 months and i haven't heard from him. he was really harsh when he called it off. i had the hopes that he would maybe remember my bday and touch base with me then, but he never did. gradually i got over him but still always wonder how he is really doing. then a month after my bday he gets a hold of me and wishes me a happy bday. he calls at one in the morning and leaves me a message. i listen to it and can't help but wonder if he wasn't drunk or on a mania of some sort to all of a sudden out of the blue wish me a happy birthday. i waited until the next aftn and left him a messg saying thanks and that i was happy to hear from him. and of course he has sent nothing back since that one night he left his message. am i wrong to think that he pretty much drunk dialed me or is there any possibility that he still thinks of me and wants to talk to me still? i am chalking up his harshness when we broke up to the fact that he must've been going through one of his depressions, but i don't know. any advice please??????-- posted by ohsoconfuzed » razzledazzle47 - totally confused In response to totally confused posted by lindseyrae71:alright, how should i get that to you privately? -- posted by razzledazzle47 » razzledazzle47 - 1 month later.... In response to 1 month later.... posted by ohsoconfuzed:i unfortunately don't have any advice for you, just that the guy i am dating who is BP can be like that as well. when he is drunk he is far more "affectionate and loving" than he is when not drunk. he does not drink everyday or regularly at all , it's just that when he does it's like i have this guy who is constantly telling me he loves me but then as he is normally he is much moodier and i don't get the same kind of affection. it does bother me that he is like that since i've always been taught that that is a bad sign, but i don't know how different the rules are with someone who is BP. i'm not sure is he is manic either. there sure seem to be alot of people on this forum with questions but hardly any answers, i wonder why that is. i hope things work out for you with this guy. -- posted by razzledazzle47 « Previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 Next » Please follow the guidelines set forth in the Suite101 Posting Etiquette when adding to the discussion. |
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