THE CARE KIDS RECIEVE???????????

Top 5. Mar 14, 2000 5:19 PM

» The_moose - One more thing

I am not an expert or even a skilled advocate in child welfare so PLEASE do not assume that I know all the ins and outs of the system. I do know that when properly used it is a great child and family resource and that the system, flawed as it is... does work. Just that it sometimes does more harm than good

I will keep you in my prayers and I wish you the best.

Keep me posted as to your progress. If nothing else... I'm a pretty good listener

-- posted by The_moose

Top 6. Mar 15, 2000 8:13 PM

» PINTO - I HAVE TALKED TO HER SUPRVISOR.

I HAVE TALKED TO HER SUPERVISOR,HE TELLS ME THAT HIS CASEWORKERS DONT MAKE MISTAKES.ME AND THIS GUY HAVE GONE ROUND FOR ROUND.THIS STATE REALLY AINT A GOOD PLACE TO HAVE KIDS IN.THEY EVEN SAID THE WOULD SEND MY KIDS HOME TO ME IF I GET A DIVORCE.SOrry about the capital letters again.I forget to hit shift not the caps button!!!Any way BOB TAFT IS OUR STATE REP AND i have wrote to him.Nothing was said or done.the welfare system here is reallly corupt I think.but Im only one person.i cant seem to find the right persons or people to talk to.Someone who will really listen and not have a deaf ear on what I have to say.Thanks for eeping me in your prayers.I left everything in the lords hands!I dont know how much more I can do.That I havent already done.

-- posted by PINTO

Top 7. Mar 16, 2000 7:45 PM

» twjwddd - Why Divorce?

May I ask why your children were removed from your home? Was it something that your husband did? I am just trying to understand why you would be told you could regain custody if you got a divorce. I am not judging just trying to understand. I know that some foster parents are not the best for some children, but there are good foster parents out to help the children in any way that they can. I would never want to be a parent in this situation, but I am a foster parent who deeply cares for my foster children. They will always be treated as well as my own children are.

-- posted by twjwddd

Top 8. Mar 17, 2000 7:21 PM

» PINTO - Why divorce?Good question!!

The reason why my daughter was removed was because of her attacking me at the age of 8.My son was in my custody for one year after my daughter was taken.See my sister in law is married to my ex-husband.I know that sounds weird,but I would have to go back to 92 when all this stuff started to really tell you what and how it started.I divorced my ex back in 91,when I met my new husband.Well my new husbands sister moved in with us.I helped her out.about a week after her giving up custody of her two children to her ex to get a divorce from him,she started bringing in different guys.Use your imagination to what was going on.well my husband had asked her to stop,but of course she didnt so I had to ask her to leave,because my kids still lived with me at this time.so she moved out.A week later welfare was knocking on my door.the had gotten reports that I was an alcoholic and that my new husband was abusive to the kids.well to end that story my ex got the kids and had them for 6yrs.his wife told him to either give me the kids to me or she was leaving him. So i got custody in march of 98.My kids were emotionaly recks.They would scream bloody murder if they didnt get their way.so Soon welfare waas involved again in my life.In Sept 98 my daughter got caught stealing from a neighbor when I asked about it she blew up.the cops was called,the arrested her.thats how they got her.they left my son in my care.he was fine.Then in Oc.99 on a friday,my caseworker shows up at my house asks where my son was?I told her he was at his fathers for the weekend.Well she also had a cop with her.She wouldnt tell me why she was there.but I felt I knew why.I called my attorny,they said to ask if she had a search warrant I did and of course she didnt.so I wouldnt let her take any pictures.She was mad.She then left and on the following Monday she called and said I was to be in court at 1:oo.I called the school and they told me that i would be arrested if I stepped foot at the school.the charges was that my son said that my husband told him that a meter was going to hit the world and blow it up.And that my husband was mean to him.But when it came down to court the charges was dropped to dependancy,because my son told the judge that he lied he just wanted what his sister was getting.He thought she was getting it pretty easy..Any thing she wanted.He didnt know any different.Plus with my sister-in-law still in the picture and still mad at us she is still lying about her brother.She has drug him through the mud way to long.It really needs to stop.The kids are the ones getting hurt not me or my husband the kids need to see that we love them.and that they are wanted.Not someone trying to hurt me but the kids are the one who are getting hurt.

-- posted by PINTO

Top 9. Mar 17, 2000 8:15 PM

» twjwddd - It is a shame

It is a shame that children get caught up in such mixed up situations. I know that there are good and bad foster situations, just as there are good and bad home situations. I know that this is a diffucult situation, but keep following up and listen to you kids. Let them know how much you care. Never give up on spending what time you can with them. They will learn this and remember. If your husband truly did nothing wrong, keep faith that this will be cleared up some day. If indeed he did, then the caseworker can't return your children to the situation, as you should expect them to. I am not judging you or your husband. I know things happen and courts don't always see the truth. It is a difficult thing to change a difficult situation, but if there was no wrong done, it can happen. Is there a way you could take your child to the doctor during you visit, if he needs to go? This may be an option to see he gets the care you feel that he needs.

-- posted by twjwddd

Top 10. Mar 18, 2000 6:37 AM

» The_moose - good advice

whew, tough situation. Like I said before, I'll keep you in my prayers.

-- posted by The_moose

Top 11. May 10, 2000 9:28 AM

» WordCharmer - Ohio

You are right about Ohio. I live in Ohio and I have read the statistics, seen the headlines and know firsthand how children constantly fall through the cracks here. But we are not the only state where this happens.

I have a friend in Washington State, whose grandson is being sexually, physically, and emotionally abused and neglected. He is 4. She has called Children's Services, written letters to CPS, Congressmen, attorneys, gone to the police, seen counselors at CPS and NO ONE is doing anything to stop the abuse. They tell her that because the boy told her and she is telling them, it is only heresay! I can't believe that! A 4 year old who is afraid to tell to begin with, decides to confide in his grandmother, and CPS does nothing! She has done everything except kidnapp the child!

I have done everything to try to help her find someone in the state of Washington, who will investigate and do something to help this child, but to date, no one has responded. I'm afraid that it will be too late by the time they decide to listen! Then, like the nurse who posted a poem in the contest, another child will suffer needlessly!

I believe there should be an organization of people, like us, who can step in and speak for these children when CPS does nothing. We should be able to demand immediate action! If there are any CPS workers out here listening, what is this woman suppose to do, sit by until the child is harmed further or dies? She has been trying for almost a year! This is not right and it is very frustrating when she has done everything to help this child and gets no where. In the mean time, the little boy lives in a home where there is alledged drug abuse and his mother's boyfriend "visits" him early in the morning. He has alledgedly sodomized this child more than once. The grandmother, my friend, has seen evidence, including bleeding, and the child wearing 2 pair of underwear to "protect" himself.

If anyone out there knows what steps this women can take, please email me with the information.

Things like this shouldn't happen in any state! These children need to be heard. Why does it take so long for something to be done? I don't have the answers. All I know is that children are dying, waiting for someone to do something.

-- posted by WordCharmer

Top 12. May 15, 2000 5:00 AM

» WordCharmer - Underlines

Looks like someone underlined with a tag that was not closed.

-- posted by WordCharmer

Top 13. Sep 4, 2002 1:12 AM

» noel1979 - Re: I HAVE TALKED TO HER SUPRVISOR.

I have had CPS called on me just about a year ago. The reason for the call was due to my mother. She wanted full custody of my son who is 9 and she figured and knew if she went through the courts they would tell her to put something up her butt. SO she figured she would go the CPS way. They can knocking on my door and talked ot us. We found out that they were looking into the charges of my boyfriend playing with himself on the computer and showing the kids how to do the same, to having no food or running water. They spoke to us and my son and can to it being that it was al crap which it was. Which was good. They even told my son that even if your parents become homeless we would not talk you from them. Which make him mad cause he found it hard to handle what it was okay to be on the streets. But then my son went to his fathers house for the summer, and come to find out that there was a convicted child mosleter in the home, we tryed everything to get hims out of there. We went to cps and then to the police and so on. ANd they all said well unless your kid says he is being touched or has been touched we won't do anything at all. Why does it seem that there (cps) when you don't need them but when you really do cause a next door kid is being beat or something it takes them forever. ANd why can't be get people working for the system that knows what they are doing. Stop hiring kids right out of highschool. I think we need to get something on the books to stop that. And make the system be what it needs to be. SOmthing that works for everyone. and stop being singled out. If any of you want to chat on this issue please email me
noel1979@hotmail.com
thanks

-- posted by noel1979