Beginning a Marriage Annulment
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» coolred - Divorce first?
Hello. I'm looking into getting an annulment. I haven't even been married a year and my marriage is already over. :o( I didn't want a divorce. But as I was looking into it, I heard that you have to get a divorce first. Is this true? I've been trying to look it up over the net and not one thing I found about annulments or decree of nullity says that. Is the Church the one that can grant an annulment or is there also an annulment through the state? Please Help!! I don't want to consider this my first marriage. I believe in marriage and I never wanted to get a divorce ever!!! Especially not in the first year!! Boo-Hoo! There are circumstances I never knew before I agreed to get married. We never got married in the Catholic Church because we didn't have the funds at that time, so we got married by a Notary. My first Anniversary is October 10, 2000. I don't even want to get that far... even though it probably will. Thank you so much for anything you may be able to help with.-- posted by coolred
» CatherineLondon - Re: Canonical Advice
I was divorced 12 years ago having left my husband only 6 months after our marriage in a Roman Catholic Church. The grounds of our divorce were unreasonable behaviour on my husbands part. I am now getting married again and would like an annulment of my marriage in order to get married in a RC church again. Please can you let me know how long an annulment take? I would like to get married before Christmas or Easter 2002.Many thanks,
-- posted by CatherineLondon
» billgerst - Internal Forum ???
Dear Icd3,Have to tell you, I have never heard of an
Annulment Proceedings being handled by anyone
other than the Marriage Tribunal at the Diocese
Level here in the United States.
I would suggest that you call the Tribunal
at your Diocese and ask them how to proceed.
There may be some confusion in what you were
told. Very often, someone at the Parish level is
assigned the task of an Initial Interview to see
if your situation is such that an Annulment is
something you should be seeking.
I hope this helps. Bill
-- posted by billgerst
» billgerst - The Horse FIRST !!
Hi All,I think it is important for everyone to know
what a Declaration of Nullity ( an Annulment )
is before you begin anything, especially before
you get very involved with a new person !
The words "Declaration of Nullity" really say
it very well. It is the Church looking at all of
the details that went into people getting married
and determining if a Valid Marriage occurred. If
that did happen, and you are validly married, the
Church will say that. But, if there was some
serious defect, the Church will Declare there was
"No Valid Marriage"; that is the Declaration of
Nullity. It is NOT a "Catholic Divorce" as some
think, but a declaration that there was "NO Real
Marriage" for some good reason.
So, before you get very involved with someone,
know this, until the Church formally declares that
there was no marriage, we really are not even Free
to be dating anyone or looking for a new partner.
I say this to spare you all of the "pain" you
will encounter if the Church finds that you are
validly married and "not free" to marry anyone.
Keep the horse in front of the cart, have the
Church examine your marriage and declare it null,
or valid, before you start making plans.
Peace, Bill
-- posted by billgerst
» smiles24 - Re: Thank You
HI MY NAME IS LISA AND I WAS WONDERING IF YOU CAN HELP ME OUT. I GOT MARRIED ON MAY 5 2002. MY HUSBAND IS NOT A LANDED CITIZEN IN CANADA AND HE ASKED ME TO DO HIM A FAVOUR AND SINCE I WAS IN LOVE WITH HIM I AGREED. AS SOON AS WE GOT MARRIED HE STARTING TO BE ABUSIVE AND CONTROLLING. HE LEFT ME WITH NO FRIENDS NO MONEY NO JOY. HE ALREADY SENT IN THE MARRIGE CERTIFICATES AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE NEXT STEP WILL BE BUT I'M READY TO GET AN ANNULMENT BECAUSE I CAN'T TAKE A MAN BEATING ME. SO PLEASE I NEED YOUR HELP PLEASE CAN YOU TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO NEXT.-- posted by smiles24
» alan42 - Allunment??
Hello all,i am anewbiee and would appreciate some assistance to this matter:
my half sister went to the Fiji Islands and got legally married ,came back here and sponsored the so called hubby. this fellow got his landed immigrant visa and landed into the country very quietly .Since then we have found out that he has a common-law and a child .Above all that, she is from a religion that has that clearly states that if she does not perform the religious marriage then she is norecogniseded as being married.
She has not spoken to him since he actually landed here and she does not intend to either.
What can be possibly done so that she is not classified as a divorcee, ands what are her legal rights??
any assistance would be greatly appreciated as i would hate to see her suffer becausejacka jacka** tricked and duped her.
thank you.
Alan.
-- posted by alan42
» LMO - Do you have to be divorced to get a marriage annulment?
Hello. I'm a bit confused. It was my understanding that a couple can get an annulment if they are married for LESS than 3 months. Is this true? I am researching this topic, and it seems that I may have been wrong. Can an annulment only be granted if a couple is already divorced? Please help!-- posted by LMO
» StCatherine - To get answers e-mail
stcatherine57@msn.comThis topic is part of Suite101.com's archives and is not actively monitored anymore. I feel bad that so many have reached out and no one has answered.
I had to quit doing this topic several years ago due to illness. When I came back to the Suite, Catholicism was pretty well covered, so I took other topics.
But feel free to e-mail . . .
-- posted by StCatherine
» zero77 - Re: Re: Thank You
In response to message posted by smiles24:Hi,my case is just similar to smiles24. I got married this May of the same year and it seems that in 3 weeks time we found out that its not working out, our mariage,..We got a civil wedding and we are both thinking of the fastest way to void our marriage. Divorce is quite a long process,because we have to wait for a year to file it, so if there's any more ways to end our marriage please give some advice,.I really dont have any idea about the difference of annulment and divorce,. Please help me,And what is collabiorative divorce is it better?
-- posted by zero77
» StCatherine - Re: Re: Re: Thank You
In response to message posted by zero77:To end your civil marriage, you have to go by the laws of your state. I live in Louisiana and we don't have collaborative divorce, so I can't address that issue. You need an attorney to help you.
You will also need to get an annulment in the church which recognizes civil unions. Document any abuse - keep a notebook, tell someone that can be witness, etc. That will help you get your annulment.
Sorry I can't tell you an easy way to end your marriage. Marriage is an old and respected institution and legislatures make it hard to get out of to discourage it. It would be nice if legislatures would pass laws making it easier for abused spouses.
God bless you. Just get started on the civil divorce and church annulment and it will all be over sooner.
-- posted by StCatherine
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