THE IMPORTANCE OF BONDING WITH YOUR CHILD: Re: Bonding

» Red - Re: Bonding

Joy,

How in the world did I miss this one? My sincere apologies.

When my daughter worked full time, I watched the boys. I did this from the time that Brandon was 3 months old. Michelle did take a year off when Jordan was born, so the bond between him and I wasn't as strong. However, when Michelle went to part time, Brandon had problems adjusting. His constant and usual caregiver was gone and Mom had replaced her. Of course Brandon also has Asperger's so this made it worse for him.

Then, Michelle went down to two full days a week. The boys got used to having her home. Things changed and now she works 4 hours a day five days a week. The boys had trouble adjusting again. Now their Dad's shift has changed and we will see what happens. I believe a mother's place is in the home, raising the little ones. However, that is not always possible because of financial reasons. I do think that it is better for the children if mothers can stay at home. It gives them security, they have a strong bond and overall, their lives are more stable. It's too bad that society has made it imperative that most mothers work. It would be so much better if all moms could be in the home.

-- posted by Red