Parent Caught Between Child and Step Parent
- MKT1969
- Gladys86
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» MKT1969 - My Son and My Husband Are Not Getting Along.
My son and my husband are not getting along. I have 2 daughters and 1 son from a previous marriage. My Husband has a great relationship with the girls, however when it comes to my son that is a different story. My son is 11 years old and he is a straight A student, very polite, and well behaved. He is very interested in computers, & video games. My Husband is very athletic and he competes in rodeos. My problem is that my Husband wants my son to be more like him. My Husband is a very big guy and his appearance can be very intimidating. He is a Policeman and he handles situations at home the same way that he would handle things at work. He has never laid a hand on me or my children, but my son is intimidated by him. My children have started competing in the rodeos. My Husband has worked very hard teaching them and they all seem to love this sport. When he works with the girls, he is very patient and kind to them. When he works with my son he is impatient, he uses foul language and he yells at him. My son has never been treated like this and it upsets him greatly. When I try to talk to my husband about this and his reply is always the same. He says that I am babying him and that I will turn him into a "mommy's boy" or a "wimp". He says that boys should be handled differently than girls.Any suggestions?
-- posted by MKT1969
» Gladys86 - Re: My Son and My Husband Are Not Getting Along.
I don't know if this helps but here's a saying that I've always tried to live by, "Once a single parent, always a single parent". What you say about your son should go - you know his character much better than your partner will ever do because you've watched him from being a tiny dot. At the end of the day you are the only parent and what you say HAS to go. Somehow, you've got to find a way to tell your husband to back off a little. If your son turns out to be a wimp or a mommy's boy then he'll make some lucky girl very very happy one day won't he? He sounds lovely and I don't think you'd find a better sort of man than a thoughtful caring one do you?Good luck and take care, S.J. xx
-- posted by Gladys86
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