Adolescence and Asperger Syndrome
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» andreajo13 - Adolescence
Hi Barbara!It's interesting to read the difference between your two boys. Well my son is now thirteen, his voice has changed ( has since he was twelve) and he is starting to get a moustach! I am really enjoying this puberty thing as he for some reason is easier to get along with. Although the grooming thing with teeth and hair is a problem sometimes, he is really bothered by "zits" and uses Noxema regularly. The only problem is getting him to wash his face BEFORE using the Noxema pads! His sense of independence is definitely beginning to show although he "needs" me to be there a lot of the time. He has been volunteering with us at local hockey games - stamping hands, and helping with the booster booth and doing various "go-fer" activities. I think for many AS teenagers, volunteering is a great way to help them learn new tasks and gain some confidence!
Thanks for a great article!
Regards,
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» barbe - Re: Adolescence
In response to message posted by andreajo13:
Hi Andrea:
Wow, it's great that you can even get your son out of the house, let alone attend a hockey game! My son is very much the hermit, always has been, and crowded places to him are like the blue screen of death on my puter to me.
Yes, I see my son's mustache starting to grow and he absolutely refuses to learn how to shave, so we will see what happens!
Barbe
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» mamajill - Re: Re: Adolescence
In response to message posted by barbe:Ihave to agree as far as the grooming, my daughter is 14 and needs reminders to brush her teeth and take care of her skin!! However, she is concerned about how she looks as far as clothes and hair!!!
As I have said in previous messages, she is very mild compared to most kids I read about! She is very active both at school and after school with sports! She also gets out to youth group and enjoys the time with other adults and her friends. In fact, she is participating in a regional math contest all day this coming Saturday with 6 of her classmates in her advanced Algebra 2 class! They will travel with the teacher ( and any parent who wants to be in the company of 7 adolescents all day!) and compete against 17 other school teams! The four top teams go to the state competetion in March!! We are excited because this is an area she does extremely well in! She loves competition!
Boy, Are kids all different!LOL
-- posted by mamajill
» andreajo13 - Re: Re: Adolescence
Hi Barbara!Well, I can get him to a hockey game but cannot get him into the school that he is registered with (by law) though I would love to take him to use the library there etc. The difference is the ratio of adults to kids. Getting him to parties is also difficult. I have found that if I promise him we can leave if he is too uncomfortable, that at least gets him through the door. It was like that with the hockey game thing before. However, he has been attending hockey games since he was five. They are all different in their tolerance of "crowds". Dan hates Malls at Christmas, school gymnasiums and concert halls of any type. I have found that Dan is a little better as he gets older but anything or anywhere new will probably always be a challenge for him.
Take care!
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» barbe - Re: Re: Re: Adolescence
In response to message posted by mamajill:Hi Mamajill:
I have read that girls with AS are quite different than boys with AS and have their own issues to deal with. Yeah, it's tough when you have to nag them about the hygiene when they are over 12, but I have also read that in many ways children with AS are 3 years behind their peers, so I run that phrase through my head when I get really frustrated, lol!
-- posted by barbe
» barbe - Re: Re: Re: Adolescence
In response to message posted by andreajo13:Hi Andrea:
The only way I have been able to get my son into the school is to walk him to his classroom. I did this in Kindergarten, right until this year, Grade 7. Now, an aide meets me at the school door and walks him into his classroom. I figure that by grade 9, he may do it on his own. I think it has something to do with the fact that he doesn't know where his body is in space, gets distracted by the other kids in the hall, gets lost or falls down.
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» mamajill - Re: Re: Re: Re: Adolescence
In response to message posted by barbe:Barbe, I had to laugh when I read the part about AS kids being three years behind their peers!! My AS daughter has a younger sister who is three and a half years younger!! The younger one is very concientious about her hygeine~takes a shower after swim practice every day with hair washing (we are lucky if the older one showers once a week!!!), brushes her teeth twice a day and takes care of her skin like her skin care consultant mom taught her!LOL
My dd definitely marches to the beat of a different drummer, but is showing signs of being affected by what others think of her~~she is a clothes horse, but loves a couple of outfits more than others!!
-- posted by mamajill
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