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» sunshine50 - Re: anorexia

I know exactly how you feel! I used to starve myself or binge/purge when I felt my world was out of control! That was about 5 years ago, but the feeling comes back when I am under a lot of stress! I'm sorry your frends cannot understand you, but really unless they have been there, no one can fully grasp it. My family thought I was crazy for doing the things I did back then, but I was in a terribly abusive relationship and could not control anything but food! Even today, if life gets a little too much to bare, I still get the urge. The thing to do is understand your triggers and try and overcome them! I know it is easier said then done, but you are obviously very aware of yourself to realize that you slip back into this behaviour, therefore you have the strenghth to overcome it!! I do understand how you feel and I hope what I said helps--you are a strong, beautiful person and I hope one day soon you will come to realize this too!!

-- posted by sunshine50

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» keewil9738 - Re: anorexia

In response to message posted by allycat14911:

I understand exactly what u are going through. I am 30 yrs old and i have been dealing wih anorexia nervosa since i was 16. It never became a problem until i hit about 27 yrs old and i lost 105 lbs in about 8 months. i got pregnant and gained 110 lbs back. Well my baby is now 13 mos old and i have already lost about 80 lbs since Jan. of this year. my main problem is, that i just want to be thin. That's my main goal. The way i see it FAT IS OUT, THIN IS IN. I'm having a real hard time dealing with the fact that i cant be thin unless i starve myself. I have it all planned out, I eat one meal every 2 weeks. The rest of the time i live off of coffee and milk and diet sodas. I often feel like this is going to be the death of me because i cant seem to stop what im doing. I want to lose about another 25 lbs and then i say im through but we all know that im just trying to convince myself that i will stop when i lose that weight.
Do you want to hear something really funny? Im in school persuing my PHD in psychology tt treat people with eating disorders. I feel that the only person that can help us is people who have experienced the same thing. this is not an easy disease to cure. Its like being a drug addict. Once you have that problem it's always going to be a problem for you. I am so like you i just want to be able to eat normally and not have to worry about gaining 5 lbs overnight. Im also tired of hearing from people, Are you starving yourself again? Nobody understands what we are going through unless they have been through it themselves. I would love to hear from you so that maybe we can chat and try to help each other out. I have 2 small children and i would really like to see them grow up intead of them having to tell their friends "My mommy died because she neve ate".The one thing i am learning in class is that u have to get to the root of the problem. What in your life can't u deal with. I feel in full control over my life unlike some people, i just want to be thin. So any one who would like to respond to me and maybe give me some advice I would love to hear from u.

-- posted by keewil9738

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» tori35 - Re: Re: anorexia

In response to message posted by keewil9738:

allycat14911,

Being a parent of a 14 year old daughwer w/ the disorder, it scares me so much when I read that you have suffered since the age of 16!!! I have to ask you, do you think it was caused by anything your parents said our did not say or was there anything your parents could have done to help you?? I would appreciate it if you could shed some light on this for me. I am so consumed by her disorder thacannotanno think of anything else. I do hope that you can fstrengthghth and peace!!

-- posted by tori35

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» tori35 - Re: Re: anorexia

In response to message posted by keewil9738:

keewil19738,

Being a parent of a 14 year old daughter w/ the disorder, it scares me so much when I read that you have suffered since the age of 16!!! I have to ask you, do you think it was caused by anything your parents said our did not say or was there anything your parents could have done to help you?? I would appreciate it if you could shed some light on this for me. I am so consumed by her disorder that I canno think of anything else. I do hope that you can find strenghth and peace!!

-- posted by tori35

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» keewil9738 - Re: Re: Re: anorexia

In response to message posted by tori35:

First of all I want to say thank you for replying.
I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this with your daughter, I know it is a scary situation for you. First of all dont think that it's anything you did or didnt do for your daughter. There is something going on in her life that she cant control or is unhappy about. I know that it hurts to think that ur child is unhappy and there is nothing you an do about it. When I started starving myself at age 16 it really wasnt that severe. I would only starve myself for about 2 months and then go back to eaing. I had my first child when i was 21 and never really cared about how much i weighed until i hit 27 yrs old. That's when it officially became a problem for me. I had never gone for so long without eating and i had never lost so much weight in such a short period of time.When i conceived my second child i gained 110 lbs back that i had lost. Well now im back down to 140 and i want to lose another 20 lbs.
Im going to give you some advice on how to deal with your daughter. First of all dont pressure her. Be there for her and let her know that u are there for her. Be her friend but dont be that pushy friend that nobody likes. Look for signs that let u know what stage the disorder is in. For instance is her skin yellowish or her nails. Is her hair thin and scraggly looking. Does she still have her periods? (If not, then its time to seek medical attention).U need to find her some good therapy, whether it is one on one or group therapy. I recommend group since she is so young. Oh how i wish i already had my degree and license, I would love to talk to ur daughter and try to help her, because i have to be honest if she doesnt take control over the situation she will die! I know u dont want to hear that but it is true and i firmly believe in speaking the truth.Eventually her heart is going to just stop an dmore than likely it will happen in her sleep. Do giver her all the support u can because ur daughter is a very sick individual. I dont know ur full situation but dont blame yorself, just try to solve the problem. If she wants, tell her to respond, I check this website at least every other day if not sooner.i would love to communicate with her and if u want to respond again that would be great I would love to hear from u. Take care talk to u soon (I hope).
sicerely, ur friend

-- posted by keewil9738

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» atlangel154 - help just 14

Hey every one i am just 14 years old and i think im anorexic...i cant eat and when i do it makes me sick and i throw it up.... im scared to death and i dont know what to do...how can i get over it..

Thanks so much

Kelly

-- posted by atlangel154

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» tori35 - Re: Re: Re: Re: anorexia

In response to message posted by keewil9738:

Hello,

I am so happy that you responded...I am sorry that I did not read it sooner, but after a few days, I did not think anyone would respond. First of all, Annie is going to a therapist every other week (I do not feel that this is enough). My husband and I are going to talk with the therapist on Thursday, because we have so many questions!! We want to find out if she thinks we should have Annie go to a facility where she stays awhulehule. What do you think about that. Annie is eating somewhat...example: tangerine and a piece of bread for breakfast..salad for lunch, and fruit for dinner. She does drink a lotGatoraderade though. She basically eats no protein!! I just found something that I am really worried about...when I went into her bathroom, I saw a light pinkish ring around the toilet water...this made me feel that she may be throwing up. She does exercise on a treadmill
and jumps rope, for a total of 1 hour a day.
Anything you can tell me will help. She DOES NOT think she has a problem at all!! When I talk to her about it, she just tells me that there is nothing wrong with her. That is what is such a challenge. If she thought there was a problem, I could help her deal with it.

-- posted by tori35

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» keewil9738 - Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: anorexia

In response to message posted by tori35:

Hello

Thank you for responding.I want to briefly put you in the mind of an anorexic. The first thing that u must understand is that an anorexic deals mainly with guilt. That means that every morsel of food that goes into our mouths brings forth extreme guilt. Therefore ur daughter may very well be throwing up her food after she eats it.U may also want to search around the house for laxatives in hiding.I will say im glad to know that at least ur daughter does eat.I myself only eat one meal every 2 weeks.
What i would like to know is does ur daughter want to maintain her weight, or is she trying to lose weight.U also mentioned that she does not eat protein. Well inform her that protein does not store in ur fat cells. Protein can only produce muscle.I also think it is a good idea that u are going to talk to her therapist.Please write back and let me know what the therapist said, and let me know how else i can help u.
Im sorry i have to cut this one short but i am in school right now and have to do an assignment.

Love ya
am praying for u and your family

-- posted by keewil9738

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» vernz66 - Re: Re: Re: anorexia

In response to message posted by tori35:I am a 16 year old girl, and would like to take the time to reply. I understand it must be hard for you as a parent, but i plead with you to understand. I have been battling anorexia for about 2 years and am now at my worst, after just coming out of hospital last week, my body had starting closing down, i came very close to having a heart attack, as my blood pressure was so low my heart was closing down. I feel so guilty about what my parents must go through, but please understand that your daughter may not be able to help it. It is something that doesnt just go away. Please be patient with her and let her know you are there to help her not to critisize her for it. When my parents get angry about it, it makes me feel like giving up the fight, try to understand her, there is a big difference between being firm and making her feel guilty. I have the best of parents they are so loving and caring, i think it is the pressure that was put on me that started it and i couldnt handle it. Keep being patient and loving. Best of luck, i hope things look up for her, it is best to try to stop it now other wise it is so hard to stop, and as time goes on it gets more and more dangerous. I never thought that it would take over me like it has.
Sorry i cant be of much help, just try not to pressure or make her feel guilty, it is all about guilt. thinking of you

-- posted by vernz66

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» witch06450 - In response to tori35, I have been battling anorexia for almost

In response to tori35, I have been battling anorexia for almost 8 years. It's hard for parents to understand is that it is NOT THEIR FAULT. This is such a personal thing that someone that doesn't have an eating disorder wouldn't understand. I would not want my parents thinking for one second that they had anything to do with this. The day to day cycle I go through may seem abnormal to some people but it has been going on for so long that it is just everyday life for me. All you can do is just be there and listen to your child. Sometimes all people need is someone to listen.

-- posted by witch06450

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